Thursday, October 29, 2009

Blowjob (Fellatio) Tutorial: Lessons 9-14

LESSON NINE

Now lets turn to another portion of your partner's anatomy which should
not be ignored-the family jewels. Here are two objects which can enhance
your partner's feelings more than any other. Many people do not think
of the balls as primary sexual objects. Many men are extremely sensitive
and just as in lesson eight there must be a certain amount of trust
built up between the two of you before he will willingly let you have
undisputed use of these two pearls of delight!

For today's lesson begin by gently licking his balls with your tongue.
As your partner becomes more trusting you may begin to play with his
nipples with your fingers gradually increasing or decreasing the
intensity as you gauge how he is responding. You may want to gently
caress his cock with your hand while you are bathing his balls with your
tongue.

Remember that the balls are extremely sensitive to pain and he will lose
his trust in you if you do not respect any limits he places on them just
as you have the right to place limits on the back of your throat until
you are completely ready to receive him.

It is possible once you have built up this trust to take both his balls
in your mouth. He will be more receptive to this if you thoroughly wet
them with your tongue prior to taking them into your mouth. Unless your
partner is into the new fad of complete body shaving he will have tiny
hairs on his testicles. By giving the balls a complete tongue bath prior
to taking them into your mouth, you will have pressed these hairs down
along the surface of the sac and will not inadvertently cause pain by
pulling on them.

This may seem a small lesson but you will discover an entirely new world
of sensations for your partner when you take the time to get to know his
testicles!

LESSON TEN

I hesitated to include this into your lesson plan but finally I decided
that if you are aware of the most safe way to do this technique that my
responsibility for giving you the tools to be the best cocksucker you
can be will be satisfied.

Analingus. Putting your tongue to his anal opening. Ass sucking.

Before you even consider doing this, make certain that your partner is
clean. Immediately out of the shower. Place a piece of Saran wrap over
the butt. At no time should your tongue come into contact with the anal
surface itself.

For this lesson place your partner on his back with his legs in the air
and his knees close to his shoulders. This spreads his buttocks apart
and allows you access to his butthole.

You are probably under the impression that actual penetration of the
asshole itself is necessary for your partner to receive the most
complete enjoyment of this technique. Not so mojo! The nerve endings
around the anus itself have no discrimination and you will get him off
just as well and as thoroughly by licking around the area as if you
stick your tongue up his butt!

As with some of your other lessons this technique will not usually be
enough to get him to cum, but I feel that it is important to know all
aspects of your partner's body in order to give him the most complete
pleasure you can. You may find that after many hours of oral pleasure
you need to have other areas to concentrate on in order to give him the
satisfaction he deserves.

Analingus is a powerful stimulant and when combined with other
activities such as vigorous hand stimulation on his cock will cause a
rapid and powerful cum!

LESSON ELEVEN

For most of our lessons the only thing required is yourself, your
partner, and a condom. Maybe some Saran wrap. A plastic glove or two.
Well, another toy that will enhance your pleasure is a mini-vibrator.
For this lesson you may want to start with your finger. Then as you and
your partner become more accustomed to each other you may find him a
little intrigued about the vibrator and what it can do for him.

As you are giving head begin a slow playful search around his ass. Many
men are particularly sensitive in this area and it will enhance the
sensations that your mouth and tongue and throat are giving his cock to
feel a finger playing with his butt. As your partner relaxes and
allows you access, gently insert your gloved finger into his butt. Go
slowly exploring the velvety sensations along the sides of his opening.

When your finger is inside his asshole completely you will be at the
area of the prostate gland. Massage of this gland by your finger will
produce some of the most delightful sensations your partner has yet to
experience. I remember going to the doctor for a physical the first
time I felt this sensation. I could hardly wait to get home and have my
partner try it out on me again. While it was a bit embarrassing to cum
in the doctor's office, the feelings that the doctor inadvertently
produced were so strong that I wanted to experience them again and
again!

A gloved finger is really all that is required for this lesson. However
some members of the Cocksuckers Club of America report to me that a
mini-vibrator works exceptionally well for this type of stimulus. It is
just the same length as the average finger and due to the vibrations
that it produces the sensations against the prostate gland are even more
enhanced!

If your partner likes this stimulation you must then discover which
method he likes best. Some men prefer an in an out movement with the
finger or the vibrator while others do not. I personally find this
painful--too much like a stab in the dark. I prefer the finger or
vibrator to be placed against the prostate gland and left there to do
its most. Whichever method your partner prefers is the one you should
use.

One other point. When your partner cums there will be a natural tendency
for him to push the finger or vibrator out of his asshole. The asshole
muscles are spasming and anything in the way will be forced out. But to
maximize his pleasure you must not let this happen. Hold your finger or
the vibrator firmly in place-- this will help to stimulate the sperm
production to its maximum.

Many people have questioned me about a vibrator around the cock itself.
Does it add to the sensation or not?

It does for my partner, it does not for me. That seems to be the
consensus of opinion of other readers of FRENCH CUISINE MAGAZINE as
well. I suggest as long as you have the vibrator handy anyway, try it
around the penis. When you are licking his balls. When you are licking
his asshole. If he gets off on it, then feel free to use the vibrator
around his dick and balls. If he hates the sensation obviously don't
try it again.

LESSON TWELVE

There are times when you will want to get him off in a hurry! I always
say that Southern boys learn this one first and then expand their
repertory from that point. But because I want you to become an expert at
all aspects of oral lovemaking I deliberately waited until now to
introduce this technique. It differs from lesson four in that you are a
more consummate cocksucker now. He will love it all the more if he
realizes that this is not the only trick you have down your mouth!

It is a very simple technique and if you understand your partner's basic
cock anatomy you will grasp this one easily. Place your lips around the
head of your partner's cock and twirl your lips wetly and gently around
the coronal ridge at the back of the head of his penis. This does not
require any great cocksucking skill and it works simply because this is
the area that is most sensitive on your partner's cock.

It is not necessary to be a skillful cocksucker. All that is necessary
is for you to find the most sensitive area around the coronal area. By
sucking on this area of his cock continuously you will produce a quick
powerful cum. It is not necessary to bob your head up and down on his
cock to get him off. One other use of this technique is to get him hard
again after he cums and you will soon find him rip roaring to go again.

LESSON THIRTEEN

Don't be surprised if you find yourself going back to this lesson for
seconds. We discussed briefly at the end of lesson 12 a technique to get
him going again if he has recently cum. Today after you have gotten
your man off, lets concentrate on some techniques to get him back on
again. Not just to get him hard but to keep him hard. Hard enough to
want to cum again!

After he has cum you may need other techniques to keep him hard and to
keep him interested. Many men (not all but a good portion of us) are
exhausted by a single cum and while it is possible to get your partner
up again you have a long way to go before you get him to cum again.

Cocksucking alone at this time is usually not enough to get him off.
You will need to combine some of the techniques you have learned earlier
with your basic cocksucking technique to stimulate the juices for a
second and third go around. Don't hesitate in your exploration of his
body at this time. His nipples, his balls, his asshole. His armpits.
His earlobes.

For the second cum you are free to really get into his body and explore
all those erotic areas that you missed when you were concentrating on
his cock exclusively. His navel. His toes.

One of the things I find most exciting about the second cum is the lack
of expectation that you must get him to climax within a certain time
frame. You have all the time in the world to really give his total body
a complete tongue bath. You can explore his body safely and completely
and really get to know the total body as well as you know his delightful
dick! This is merely a sign that you are becoming a true connoisseur of
cockflesh. A title I am proud to hold.

LESSON FOURTEEN

Soixante-Neuf Sixty Nine

Sixty nine is not always the perfect way to provide your partner oral
satisfaction. Inadvertently one of you will "let up" your end of the
cocksucking in order to experience the subtle pleasures the other
partner is giving you. For this reason I have included it as the final
lesson. Many people think that the deep throat technique is the ultimate
pleasure you can give your partner. Actually I believe that sixty-nine
is the ultimate pleasure.

Done correctly and unselfishly when both of you are completely in tune
with each others innermost desires, the sixty nine is the ultimate. But
because of the problem mentioned earlier in this lesson, most people
practice it too early and it becomes an intensely satisfying experience
for one partner at the expense of the other. When you are completely on
each other's wavelength you will discover that this is the most
effective way of giving as well as receiving pleasure.

The element that must be in place is simple: Both of you must be
consummate cocksuckers! If you have a partner who is not in the least
interested in giving head and only likes to receive it then to attempt
sixty-nine is to ask for unhappiness in your relationship.

TECHNIQUES

As editor of FRENCH CUISINE MAGAZINE I sometimes send out questionnaires
to our members to find out more. I question them about their desires,
and their favorite ways to practice safe and sane oral sex Here are some
of the most popular variations on cocksucking.

THE BUTTERFLY FLUTTER

The best position for this very sensuous cocksucking movement is
kneeling over your partner. If he is on his back kneel between his legs.
Or kneel in front of your partner while he stands. I like this position
because the cock feels thicker in your mouth and throat and you have
complete freedom to play with his balls while performing this maneuver.

This technique was first introduced to me by a cocksucker in northern
California. There was a notorious movie theater in downtown San
Francisco with a darkened balcony. A cocksucker's haven. And this guy
had us lined up. You knew from the moans emanating from the guy's
throat who was getting his cock sucked that this guy was that one in a
thousand who knew how to please a variety of fresh cockmeat. It felt so
good that I studied him closely while he was sucking cock. Not only did
I observe the guys who were getting the radical suck, but I got down
close to the cock and observed how he was maneuvering around it. He
created the basic vacuum pressure on the cock but only enough pressure
to pull the cock into his mouth ever so slightly.

With his lips firmly wrapped around the guy's big swollen cock head and
shaft he would gently flick the tip of the cock with his tongue. With
his lips open around the cock at a depth so that he could touch the tip
of the cock with the tip of his tongue. With his lips around the cock
shaft he would make an up and down movement with his tongue. He would
flutter his tongue up and down the tip of the cock.

I recommend you try it. It will drive your Butterfly Flutter partner
back into your mouth at any hour you want him there. After several
minutes of this continue with the basic vacuum suck.

THE TRAVELING FIGURE EIGHT

After you have become comfortable with the basic vacuum suck and you
have become accustomed to his cock deep in your mouth and throat try
this action. It is guaranteed to take his breath away. With your lips
firmly wrapped around the cock shaft try very slowly to reach the base
of the shaft or as close to it as you are comfortable. Your nose should
be buried in or at least touching the pubic hairs at the base of the
cock.

With your nose trace a figure eight as if the figure eight were lying on
it's side. Your figure eight motion should be three to four inches
long. Slowly travel up the shaft of the cock to the head, doing the
figure eight motion. Keep doing this motion and let your lips firmly
travel up and down the cock shaft. Do this for as long as you are
comfortable with it. Believe me your man is floating in orbit as his
wildest dreams of the ultimate blow job are coming true.

I give credit for this most erogenous technique to a member of "The
Cocksuckers Club of America" who lives in Oregon. He and his partner
were on vacation down in Southern California and they visited me while
here. After seeing him scrape his partner off the ceiling when he did
the Traveling Figure Eight, I rushed right into my bedroom and perfected
it on my own partner! When you get tired of the movement slow down and
return to the basic vacuum suck.

By this time you are becoming more and more confident with your partner.
His cock feels great as it fills your mouth and throat. The cock is
becoming harder and warmer as your warm moist mouth and throat create
friction by going up and down that big beautiful cock. It is time to
cool his tool just a little with this technique.

I take full credit for this one myself! From tho time I hit puberty I
was fascinated by cocks. Big ones, little ones, cut ones, uncut ones,
crooked ones, straight ones. All shapes, all sizes. I wanted to feel
them down my throat! Combine this very basic love of cocksucking with an
inherent fear of not being able to take cock and completely satisfy the
customer and you can imagine how I felt. I needed a technique that would
feel good in my mouth and would feel good for my partner. Here's what I
came up with:

Go down on the cock shaft as far as you are comfortable. All the while
your lips should be firmly wrapped around the shaft. Open your mouth as
wide as you can and suck in as much air as your lungs will hold. While
sucking in air let your open mouth travel up to the cock head. Your up
stroke motion should end at the head of his cock just as your lungs fill
with air. Now with your mouth still open let the air in your lungs out
slowly through your mouth as your opened mouth travels back down the
cock shaft. This technique cools the cock on the up stoke and warms the
cock with your hot breath on the down stroke. Do this movement as long
as you like then return to the basic vacuum suck method.

CONGRATULATIONS!

You are doing just fine and he loves it! Keep it up as long as you are
comfortable with it. For his added pleasure and to give you something to
play with reach up and fondle his balls. Or go up even further and play
with his nipples. This will give him something else to concentrated on
so he doesn't pop his cock yet. If you feel he is about to cum stop
what you are doing and let him cool off for a few minutes. After all
you are having fun and you want to enjoy his cock as much as you can
until you get tired of it. Then let him pop his cock! But not yet. He
likes it too much and he wants it to last as long as you can keep it
going.

THE CIRCLE

Place his stiff cock inside your mouth but do not tighten your lips
around the shaft. With your head begin a circle motion. The cock will
slide to different places in your mouth as you continue the circle
motion. Watch your teeth on this one.

A kneeling position will suffice but it is also effective when your
partner is on his back and your head is directly over his cock. The
circle should be executed in both clockwise and counterclockwise motions
in a slow purposeful manner.

THE LOLLIPOP LICK

With your man sitting in an elevated position and you on your knees in
front lift his hard cock to reveal his balls. With your tongue find the
underside of his balls. Now, while resting his balls on your wet tongue,
lick in an upward motion to the very tip of his cock. It is permissible
to use your hands in this technique. It is better to do this technique
several times in succession-like licking a lollipop or ice cream cone.

Blowjob (Fellatio) Tutorial: Lessons 1-8

Let's talk about the "basic penis." I regard oral sex as the highest
form of expression of love that can be exchanged between two people.
Hopefully this information will help you to break down any barriers
which you might have that would prevent you from expressing your love in
this way and from receiving a reciprocation from your male companion.

First things first. LOOK at the cock. I do not mean a cursory glance
not a hurried, surreptitious examination. Take enough time that you
convince your companion that some kind of treat is in store for him
provided he will allow you to do with him, and particularly with his
cock, exactly what you want.

Place him flat on his back on your bed, in a well lighted room. Take his
cock in your hand and LOOK at it. He probably will not have the will
power to stay soft, but then again you are worshipping his very essence.
Few men can stay soft under these circumstances, when it is apparent
that the person LOOKING at his cock is worshipping.

When you first start to touch him, his cock will become hard and be in a
state where your examination will be meaningful. Wouldn't it be nice if
going to the doctor for an examination was as enriching?

The cock must be hard if you are to be able to note the important
parts-those parts sensitive to stimulation by your lips and tongue.

The first thing you will note is whether or not he is circumcised.
Circumcision is not universally practiced: there are advantages and
disadvantages to penises in both conditions from the standpoint of
providing oral caresses that bring the highest kind of delight to your
man.

Next take a close look at the shaft of the penis itself. There is a
bulbous part of the organ near the outer end, slightly larger in
diameter than the shaft, which is often called the head. Technically
this is the glans penis (comes from the Latin glans which means acorn.
Look at it closely; does kind of look like an acorn doesn't it?)

The outside perimeter of the glans penis is the corona. This joins the
head to the shaft. This is the most sensitive spot on the penis. It is
toward this ridge that you will direct most of your attention when you
are giving head. Follow this ridge around to the underside of the
penis. You know that I like to call it the underbelly. I am particularly
fond of the underbelly!

You will notice a point of juncture where the two ends of this irregular
circle come together. If your partner is not circumcised, this will also
be the point where the foreskin is attached. This tiny area is easily
the most sensitive spot on his entire body, and it is possible to bring
your partner to climax simply by gently tapping the tip of your tongue
directly on it. Spend time caressing the glans and those areas
immediately surrounding it.

Beneath the glans is the shaft of the penis. The shaft does not have
many nerve endings and does not, therefore, provide a man with any high
degree of stimulation when caressed either manually or with your tongue
to the exclusion of the glans penis itself. It always amazes me to note
the number of confirmed cocksuckers who believe that sucking up and down
on the shaft will get the guy off. That's not it folks! If it works it
is because the back of your throat is playing tricks on his glans penis.
Your throat is giving head to his head!

Beneath the shaft are the testicles (balls, jewels, call them what you
like, but let's not ignore their significance). The testicles are
extremely sensitive to pain and are not usually considered subject to
erotic stimulation to any particular degree. Not true! You can add a
high degree of pleasure for him by paying the right kind of attention to
the balls!

Now lets go back to the shaft of the matter. The opening in the tip of
the glans penis is the meatus. Here is where the cum spurts. (I could
have said semen is ejaculated but I did not want to sound too
professional).

There are other parts of a man's body which respond with alacrity to
oral stimulation.

Many men are particularly sensitive around the nipples. The first time I
kissed my partner's nipples he shot before I had the chance to even get
near his cock. While I have not been able to duplicate this in the
laboratory setting (he hates to go near the lab with me) my partner
still gets extremely turned on by my lingual nipple caresses.

So LOOK at your partner's penis. Study it. Learn its areas of special
sensitivity completely and be ready to apply your knowledge to his body
with your tongue and with your lips when you bend your loving head over
his cock. There is nothing that you can do which more clearly shows your
love for him than the worship you can provide his cock!

LESSON TWO

The sad fact is that most people, men and women, do not have the
slightest idea of how to suck cock. Most seem to think that simply by
making a cunt of their mouth, closing it around a man's penis, and
bobbing their heads lustily up and down until he climaxes automatically
makes them expert cocksuckers. Au contraire!

Consummate skill is required to suck a man's cock and provide him with
the highest degree of pleasure possible. When I first started my quest
I really had no one to turn to for advise and counsel. It was all hunt
and suck. Hunt and suck. Find that one technique that could and would
set him on fire! I had to learn from my experiences and while I would
not want to deny you the innate pleasure that these experiences will
bring I would hate to see you lose a great companion because of your
inexperience and lack of expertise.

Let's assume that you have taken that opportunity to LOOK at his penis.
To explore each area of the penis to find the most sensitive parts. That
you have gotten beyond "Parts is parts" and recognize that some parts
are more equal than others.

In order for you to observe your man's reactions and get the most
information possible about his responses try the following:

While his erect penis points toward the ceiling, cup his balls in one
hand and gently, using only your tongue, lick softly, but carefully
along the entire underside of his erect organ. As you suck along the
underbelly you will learn those areas that give him the greatest
pleasure when your tongue is touching them. Unless he is made of stone,
your partner will provide you with vivid clues as to which areas are
most pleasurable.

As you discover these areas of enhanced pleasure concentrate on them.
For most men the most sensitive area will be the point where the ring
(or corona) of the head and the foreskin are attached. Or were attached
prior to his circumcision. By continued licking and tapping along this
area with your tongue you are going to bring forth a geyser. If you are
not skilled and you want to please him in a hurry I suggest that you get
him off in this manner in order to become familiar at first hand with
the nature and delight of his climax.

As he is getting ready for climax you will note changes in his penis.
These signs will be the same every time he climaxes so that you can
prepare for his cum properly. The head of the cock may swell somewhat
larger then it is during the normal course of his erection. He may
thrust his hips forward as he wants to send his body hurtling out his
cock with his cum. And for most men, immediately prior to the cum, there
will appear at the tiny, lovely lips at the tip of the cock a clear drop
or two of fluid. When you see this or feel the opening at the meateus
through his condom you know that the moment of truth is at hand. Launch
the torpedoes, full cum ahead!

Where should you be when you are sucking his cock? Between his legs, on
top of him, in a sixty nine position? Where? Because of the structure
of his penis, as well as the structure of your mouth, lips, tongue, and
teeth, you can provide the highest degree of sensation to yourself and
your partner by kneeling between his legs and approaching his cock from
the bottom rather than from the side or the top. Don't believe me? Try
the various positions (I describe in later chapters techniques to be
used with each position). See what works best for you and your partner.

LESSON THREE

Place his stiff cock inside your mouth but do not tighten your lips
around the shaft. With your head begin a circle motion. The cock will
slide to different places in your mouth as you continue the circle
motion. Watch your teeth on this one. A kneeling position will suffice
but it is also effective when your partner is on his back and your head
is directly over his cock. The circle should be executed in both
clockwise and counterclockwise motions in a slow purposeful manner. I
found many guys in New York who seem to prefer this technique above all
others. I met one guy who could circle a cock for hours and I found
myself having multiple orgasms while his mouth circled my cock. I didn't
lose my hard-on after each cum. When the technique is performed
correctly it means many hours of unadulterated pleasure.

LESSON FOUR

With your man sitting in an elevated position and you on your knees in
front of him lift his hard cock to reveal his balls. With your tongue
find the underside of his balls. Now, while resting his balls on your
wet tongue, lick in an upward motion to the very tip of his cock. It is
permissible to use your hands in this technique. It is bettor to do
this technique several times in succession-like licking a lollipop or
ice cream cone. I grew up down south. And one thing about.southern boys.
We learn early how to get if off quickly when the need is there. And the
lollipop lick is the one technique in this book which few men can
tolerate for long periods of time without cumming.

LESSON FIVE

Right now lets discuss a technique that is probably the most common
cocksucking technique in the world. Take his cock in your mouth but not
deeply. We will get to deep throating later on. It's great, not
over-rated, but if you want to be an expert at deep throat start with
the right techniques and work your way down, so to speak.

Take his cock in your mouth by sliding your moistened tongue lovingly
over the head until your lips close around the shaft at the point just
behind the corona. Don't just open your mouth and close it around his
cock. Slide it in. He will enjoy it much more. Encase the shaft of his
penis with your hand. Remember the shaft is relatively insensitive to
any kind of stimulation. By enclosing his penis with your hand you give
him the sensation of having his penis encased.

Now you have several options. Try twisting your head from side to side
making sure your moist lips stay in contact with the coronal ridge.
While doing this gently move your hand up and down the shaft. When he
climaxes he may want to push your head further down the shaft of his
penis. He wants to envelop you with his cock. As you are learning his
climax you will miss the fine points if you deep throat at this time.
Instead gently suck around the corona as he climaxes so that you can
intensify his pleasure and increase the force of his orgasm.

As you gain more experience you will be able to tell exactly when his
climax is approaching and you will be ready for that initial spurt out
the rubber.

LESSON SIX

There is one further refinement to this basic technique which will
heighten his orgasm. If you place your thumb at the very base of the
penis in such a way as to block the tube through which the cum spurts,
the semen cannot escape even though he is spasming and going through the
reflex action of ejaculating semen.

If at the same time you suck vigorously on the head of his cock you can
delay his cum for several long moments. When you finally allow the cum
to spurt it will last much longer and be just as intense as a result.
Even though you delay the cum for only a few short moments you will be
surprised by the intensity of his cum.

These techniques are the basis of cocksucking. Do not go beyond them
until you have become an expert, not only in the techniques themselves,
but also in the reading and interpreting of your partner's responses to
such a point that you know exactly how he is getting off on what you are
doing. When you have reached this point, you are ready for the more
subtle, more advanced techniques.

Don't be so slavish that you miss out on the fun of self discovery. Find
out what works for you and for your partner and make your cocksucking as
individual as your signature. After all, you want your man to pick you
out in the dark among hundred slobbering cocksuckers.

LESSON SEVEN

One of the first things you encountered when you first started to suck
cock was a gag reflex. Most men seem to want to force their cocks down
your throat as far as they can get it. Particularly at the moment when
they cum!

Consider for a moment that the average length of your oral cavity is
three to three and a half inches while the average Caucasian cock length
is five to five and a half inches. The laws of nature would seem to
dictate that getting all that cock into your mouth is an impossibility.

It can be done. You probably know someone who can do it and that is why
you purchased this book to begin with. It is possible to master the
necessary technique. I don't want to be boring, but if you understand
your anatomy you will begin to understand the requirements that allow
you to take his hard cock into your mouth and down your throat. The
biggest obstacle to taking all of his cock down your throat is the fact
that there is a bend of almost ninety degrees behind your tongue leading
down into your throat. So the first thing to do is get the cock past
that angle.

Get past the angle of the dangle!

In order to practice this, get in a position where you can turn your
head in such a way that your mouth and throat lie almost in a straight
line. The best position to accomplish this is to lie on a bed so that
your head is near the edge with your body sprawled across the bed so
that your head is tipped sharply back. This position will put your mouth
and throat nearly in a line and will allow your partner to approach you
in such a way that insertion of his cock can be made so deeply that his
pubic hair presses against your lips.

LESSON EIGHT

Today we will practice mastering physical reaction that must be
alleviated before the art of deep penetration can fully be enjoyed. The
natural tendency of the body to gag when a foreign object such as a
deeply thrusting cock being forced down your throat. You can overcome
this tendency by completely relaxing your throat at moment the insertion
is made. It is equally important that you maintain this relaxation
during the entire deep throating.

Let him put his cock down your throat and hold it still while you find
the most comfortable way to proceed. Because of your position you will
not be able to move or to offer him any greater stimulation than simply
keeping your mouth tightly closed around his throbbing cock. If you are
able try to stimulate his underbelly with your tongue, do it!

You will only be able to relax and take his cock in this way if you
completely thrust your partner. Your partner is in full control. He
must initiate and maintain all the motion. This is the only exercise in
which you relinquish your control of the situation to your partner. He
will relish this for the simple fact that for the first time he can
insert his cock as deeply down your throat as he wants to. Now your
partner begins an in and out movement that is just like fucking. He
should start slowly, especially if this is a completely new experience
for the two of you. After all if he hurts you he cuts himself off from
one of the great pleasures in life. His only other requirement during
this exercise is to keep the motion in the same direction throughout
this oral exercise as there is simply no leeway for him to vary the
motion from side to side.

One other word of caution.

Don't let your partner get carried away at the moment he starts to cum.
At that spectacular moment he will be able for the first time to thrust
his cock all the way inside your oral cavity and that is the most
important lesson of this exercise! His only other requirement during
the exercise is to keep the motion in the same against your lips as he
cums. Because of your position in bed you will not be faced with the
problem of swallowing his cum. And this is not just because he has a
condom on his dick. The reason is because he has gotten his cock BEYOND
your gag reflex! Without the rubber his cum would shoot directly into
your stomach! If both you and your partner understand what it is that
you are trying to do as well as the possible problems that may "cum" up
along the way no harm or discomfort will happen to either of you.

It is possible that not everyone will learn the "deep throat" technique
but this inability does not make you any less a cocksucker. You must
allow your throat to relax completely while your partner is thrusting
his cock this deeply down your throat. To do this long enough for your
partner to completely get it off is very difficult and may require
practice beyond this day. It may be that you will be able to take your
partner completely down your throat, but you will not be able to
maintain proper relaxation of your throat to until he shoots his load.
Hopefully your partner will understand that this is not a rejection of
him or of what he is offering you, and it is my sincere desire that you
not stop here and think that you will never master the "deep throat"
technique.

Continue to practice this lesson. I know couples who have devoted ten
months to this lesson alone. Continue to practice this technique
because your practice will allow you to take his cock deeper into your
throat each time and for longer periods of time. Ultimately you will
succeed. If you have the desire you will get this one down pat!

Q & A: "I noticed some small bumps on my penis. Could these be genital warts?"

I noticed some small bumps on my penis. Could these be
genital warts? If so do I need to do anything about them?

Genital warts are also known as venereal warts, or
condyloma acuminatum. They are a type of wart that look
like those found anywhere else on the body, but that only occur
in the genital area. They are caused by a virus, and transmitted
by direct "skin-to-skin" sexual contact. Once acquired, the virus
cannot be cured, but the warts themselves come and go. They
typically affect the areas of the vulva, vagina, rectum, and
cervix in women, and the penis, scrotum, and rectum in men. You
should see a health professional to determine whether your bumps
are warts, or something else.

By and large, genital warts are considered more of a nuisance
than a major health problem. Nonetheless, there is evidence that
the virus increases a woman's risk for cervical cancer. Women
should take extra care to obtain annual pap smears for cervical
cancer screening.

There are a variety of local treatments that will remove the
warts, but as with any other wart, the virus remains in your
body. These treatments are available from gynecologists,
dermatologists, and some primary care practitioners. Do not use
over-the-counter remedies for these types of warts.

Removal of the warts, and the use of condoms, will reduce your
chances of giving genital warts to an uninfected person, but are
not fool-proof as small, barely perceptible warts on genital
areas not shielded by the condom, could potentially transmit the
virus.

-- R. Jandl

Q & A: "I don't have to worry about catching herpes if he has no sores at the time we have sex"

My boyfriend says he once had an attack of genital
herpes, but that I don't have to worry about catching it if he
has no sores at the time we have sex. Is he right?

Not exactly. Genital herpes (usually caused by the virus
herpes simplex type) is transmitted through vaginal and
anal intercourse. Most frequently, there are multiple painful or
burning sores involving the vagina, labia, vulva, or rectum in
women, and the penis, rectum, or area at the base of the penis in
men. The sores will go away, but as the virus remains dormant in
your body, sores may reappear months or years later. If you or
your partner have herpes sores at the time of sexual contact it
is very contagious.

Unfortunately, genital herpes is not curable. Therefore, once
you've had an initial outbreak, there is the possibility of
transmitting the disease. This is true even if you have no
visible sores. The reason for this is that a carrier of herpes
begins to shed the virus (meaning you're contagious) just before
an outbreak occurs -- in other words, while you feel fine, or
when you first begin to feel a burning or itching sensation, and
before there are any visible sores. The frequency with which you
can get herpes from someone who has the virus and is completely
asymptomatic is not known, but probably relatively low.

The best thing to do is to always use a condom, and if sores are
present, avoid sex altogether. Remember that just the physical
contact between the vulva and the base of the penis while using a
condom can transmit herpes. The Reality female condom protects
those areas somewhat better.

-- R. Jandl

Q & A: "What is the maximum length of time HIV can remain infectious in a bodily fluid which has been deposited on a surface"

What is the maximum length of time HIV can remain
infectious in a bodily fluid which has been deposited on a
surface (like a floor or table or whatever)?
-- RI

When left on an open surface, HIV actually remains
infectious for a relatively short period of time. In most
cases, the virus is no longer viable after a couple of hours.
Transmission from such a surface (be it a toilet seat,
counter-top, bed sheets, etc.) would also require movement of the
virus through either a mucous membrane (such as the eye or mouth)
or a break in the skin of any kind. Therefore, except in very
unusual circumstances, you will not catch HIV from casual contact
with public toilets, counter tops, or other such surfaces.

Be aware, however, that materials or secretions that are newly
contaminated with the virus may be more or less transmissable
depending on the concentration of the virus, and how much of an
exposure occurs. For example, fresh semen containing the HIV
virus, when rubbed on fingers with no rashes or breaks in the
skin does not seem to be a problem; whereas if the finger touches
and heavily contaminates the eye, or if the finger has a cut or
open abrasion, and especially if the semen was contaminated with
high concentrations of HIV, transmission is possible.

-- R. Jandl

Q & A: "Why is it that you have to wait for three month after you have intercourse with somebody to be tested?"

I have a few questions about HIV. Why is it that you have
to wait for three month after you have intercourse with somebody
to be tested? I had sex about two months ago with a person who I
do not really know much about and I am a little scared of HIV and
AIDS. I did use a condom but I don't know. One more question, if
you are HIV positive, does that mean you will die soon?

At first, after the HIV virus has entered your body, you
will test negative for HIV. That is because the standard
screening blood test detects antibodies you make to fight off the
HIV infection, and not the HIV virus itself. Those antibodies
take a while to form, and when they do, it is called
"seroconversion." In the case of HIV, we need to wait
approximately six months after your last contact with HIV to see
if you have seroconverted. Ninety-nine percent of people who are
going to convert will do so by then. Many people will convert
sooner (up to 95% at three months). To be able to confidently
reassure someone that they did not pick up HIV it is best to wait
the six months, although there may be situations where testing at
both three and six months make sense.

It's great you used a condom. If you have any questions about
using them correctly check out Contraception Contemplation.
Prevention of AIDS is only possible by preventing HIV
transmission.

Your last question is a difficult one. For someone who is
infected with the HIV virus, they can often look forward to many
years of good health. As you know, that can change with time, and
there is still no cure for the disease. However, there have been
small numbers of people reported who have "beat the odds." By
living much longer than expected, these people may ultimately
help show the way to long-term survival.

-- R. Jandl

Q & A: "Once you have had unprotected sex with someone, is there any point in using condoms with that person later?"

Once you have had unprotected sex with someone, is there
any point in using condoms with that person later? I mean for the
purposes of avoiding transmitting AIDS, I'm on the pill, so I'm
not really worried about getting pregnant.

I would advise using condoms in future contacts, even if
you have had sex without a condom before with that
person. You will not always be infected with the AIDS virus every
time you have unprotected sexual exposure. The more times you
have contact with the virus, the more likely you are to be
infected by it. So getting away with it once, does not
necessarily mean getting away with it a second time.

If you are considering getting tested for exposure to the AIDS
virus, remember that it may take up to six months for your blood
test to become positive after exposure. Therefore if you had
exposure to the virus today, you might not have a positive test
until six months from now.

You also point out one of the drawbacks to using the pill -- it's
a great contraceptive, but it does not protect you against STD's.

-- S. Yates