Sunday, December 2, 2007

Body Shapes and Feelings Of Inadequacy

Often a first sexual encounter with a new partner, causes feelings of inadequacy. As you take off your clothing, you suddenly wish that your thighs were thinner, your stomach flatter, your penis or breasts bigger. You worry that your partner won't like your body and it is often hard to come to terms with the way we look. Here are some concepts to remember.

1) No one is perfect. This should be an easy one, but media and culture today make it difficult to believe. Both males and females are attacked by advertisers looking to make money. I can't count the number of commercials about everything from clothing to hair loss solutions that try to sell the idea that without their product, you will not be as attractive.

Here's a wake-up call, though. Even supermodels, models and porn stars aren't perfect. Even they must wake up, look in the mirror and be dissatisfied, or why would they get all the plastic surgery?

They have simply learned the art of showing their best side and/or have been lucky enough to be born in a generation where their body form is considered ideal.

2) Deny the Negative. I remember the story of a group of girls who were at a sleepover. As part of a "truth or dare" game they had to point out their worst physical feature. As the girls named the body part that they hated the most, the other girls were surprised as they hadn't even noticed the problem. By the end of it, the girls couldn't stop staring at everyone else's "big nose" "high forehead" ect.

There is a good lesson in this. If you do have small breasts, lumpy penis or any other physical problem, don't draw attention to it. Going around complaining about it, will only draw attention away from your good points.

3) Trade-Off. Sometimes its hard not to notice the things that you hate about yourself. For every thing you don't like about your body, find one thing that's amazing. For example, if you think that you have an ugly vagina, tell yourself that you have amazingly perky breasts. If you have a bad complexion, counter that with your incredible teeth. Start re-building your confidence by recognizing your positive points.

4) Focus on the Positive. Realize that your good points are better then your bad points. Show off your good points by choosing clothing and lingerie that show off your positive parts. Take a positive attitude and help boost your confidence with an occasional comment like, "Wow, I can't believe how hard my cock is!" that invites your partner to agree with you.

Its very important to focus on your partner's good points as well. Take opportunities to point out their feature that you find pleasing. If your partner has great feeling testicles or beautiful labia, tell them so. They will appreciate the boost. Just remember to be honest and sincere. Telling a man with an obviously small penis that it is "such a monster" will simply make the situation awkward. Instead focus on something like "The way your muscles feel under my hands.

4) Be good to yourself. In truth, the things that you don't like about your body are not that bad. Keeping a positive attitude in life will make you attractive. Get involved in some sort of physical activity and some social activities. Take up some hobbies. Dress well. If you are feeling good mentally, it will make you attractive to other people.

They will be impressed with you, regardless of your shape and size and will want to get to know you because of your grace, intelligence and confidence. And once they get to know you, they will suddenly realize that you have the most incredible eyes....

Kinky Tricks: great way to spice up any relationship

These are a great way to spice up any relationship. Getting bored with routine? Why not try some of these?

"Total Stranger"- The role playing adventure of pretending to be a stranger and reentering someone's life is often done to perfection and can be a great game to rekindle flames.

"Hello Jello Bath"-A tub full of Jello or whip cream can provide hours of entertainment not to mention a delicious snack.

"Blindfold"- When blindfolding someone and then doing amazing things to their body closes one of the senses down but can make the other four come alive to new extremes. Fruit and props can do wonder here as they can't see and can only guess what you are doing to them.

"Suspense Games"- Using games as sexual communication devices is a good way to learn about fantasy's etc. These games include like truth or dare and can be used on passive people to lure out what they would really like. An example is like rolling dice and if you get a seven, you'll get a blowjob. Keep in mind you may also have to return the favor if your roll isn't so lucky.

"Hot Cold Therapy"- for use on guys, nothing is more overwhelming that licking a popsicle then sipping hot chocolate while delivering unearthly oral sex to a guy.

"Tied up, whips and spanking :)"- A "kinky" idea that can fulfill fantasy's and make dreams come through. Try using simple advances like holding her hands down, then go for the tie up. Next step is a anonymous present containing handcuffs.....

"Make your own porno"- Nothing, and I mean nothing can provide a change of atmosphere like making your own porno. If you don't fall over with laughter, and get something out of then maybe you are in the wrong career.

"Lifesaver Flavor"- A lifesaver thrown into a woman's wishing well can provide excellent flavor for a late night snack.

"Hotels in The afternoon"- Changing the scenery and renting a fancy hotel room on a lunch break can make ample time for your sex life to climax.

"Naked Run in the backyard"- Worth the risk ESPECIALLY when done together.

"Do it in Public.. "- No comments.

"Three's Company"- An idea to improve the fun between the two of you....try three of you.

"No Underwear"- Having a breeze of fresh air every once in a while can certainly increase those love hormones.

"School Girl Uniforms"- Lot's of guys go for the innocent and orderly look when picking up something for her to wear.

"Nibbling Breasts"- A real turn on during foreplay can be nibbling of the nipples with your teeth. Tongue flicking also seems to get results, gee figure that one out.

"Double lick" - One thing that I always like, is dragging my lower lip behind my tongue.

"POP ROCK" - Giving a guy a blow job with candy pop rocks in your mouth and really add a spark and "crackle" to things

Penis Size: Many Guys Are Dying To Know How Their Dick Compares To Others


Alright the question comes up all over the place and many guys are dying to know how their dick compares to others. Well there's two ways to find out. The first and most popular way is to check the stats here and believe us or you can take the second approach. You figure it out. I stick with the first.

Keep in mind that in most cases, pending the severe , size does not matter. It's how you use your friend that determines how the job is accomplished. However, as mentioned above, there are "pickles" that are either too large or small reducing the ability to pleasure a women. With this in mind, these people may have to look at combining efforts to meet standards so to speak. An example of this is using manual stimulation at the same time as intercourse.

Another point to remember is that when girls talk about a "big dick" they can be referring to both length or width. The majority seem to

find bigger width more pleasurable. Putting the puzzle together for you, this means your dong may be 4 inches long but your gift in width will be able to rock Mt. St. Helens with little effort.

The average length of a penis when erect is between 5-6 inches long. The average girth of a penis is between 3.5 and 4.5 inches. These are rough averages but you have been probably told already that there are no "right" sizes for a penis.

Apparently if you are really dissatisfied with the size there are certain options you can take. One of them is surgery to make your penis longer. Keep in mind that they get the extra skin etc from somewhere... Another option is using natural methods. WARNING! The following ideas are not being promoted by us. They are by stretching and doing exercises. In the past some claimed that they could grow their penis by stretching etc. You do as you will but we are in no way promoting this...hee hee. It wouldn't be that much help hurting yourself down there. The last major method, which makes for temporary growth, is the purchase of a pump that can provide a big penis for intercourse etc. Go crazy if you feel you need this.


Now moving on to the female sizes we understand that there is also differences. Some men like different things. An example is a lot of men go and fantasize for big breasts. At the same time however we also hear quotes like "..anything more than a handful is a waste... "proving that the average breast can be justt as enticing. Even smaller hard breasts are know to be eye catchers. The basic idea is that guys dig cleavage. So go for that look when dressed to impress.

If you are really worried about the size of your breasts there are surgeries that are becoming more popular. They will probably attract lots of men but as yourself are these men really keepers. If the guy likes you he is going to like your breasts... problem solved.

The underlying principle of all this is basically stating that whatever you've got, there are ways you can put it to good use. Hopefully in the other pages of this site you can learn how this is accomplished. The key to being a great lover does not lie in how big your "parts" are (although it may help) it lies in what you do with what you've got.

Erotic Ideas: Finding out what turns them on


A person can be romantic in a variety of ways. It extremes from fancy gifts to little gestures or soft spoken words. They key is to have something special and potentially unique between the two of you.

Flattery- As much as people deny it almost everyone likes to be flattered. Telling them how good they look and how much they mean to you are great means of communication and can often lead to trust and security. Ideas on how to improve flattery are doings things like keeping certain words sacred and only using them on special occasions.

The biggest example of this is the phrase, "I love you" which can be brought out to enhance sensations. Just ordinary words, like beautiful or amazing can be chosen as sacred and therefore become special in your relationship. Careful though, as too much can seem annoying or false.

Gestures- Simple gestures can be known to make any relationship more romantic. Symbolic gestures can replace hard-said words in public and are easily done unnoticeably. For instance, telling your partner you are thinking how beautiful they are by tapping your index finger twice during an important meetings, events etc. Using another special form of communication with your partner can spice up the relationship. It gives the two of you something special that he/she may not have with others.

Objects- Certain objects have been considered romantic in there nature and can be used as such. These include things like fire, candle, the color red, doves, etc. You get the idea. Try experimenting with all sorts of these objects in different settings, atmospheres and moods. Remember making an ordinary day special to someone is the foundation of romance. You are trying to "sweep" these people off their feet with your charm, and elegance. If you aren't charming, watch a Bond movie but leave the guns out of it.

Trips- Taking surprise trips together are the basis for adding new memories and life to a relationship. You could take long vacations, but a simple surprise day trip to a nearby city can be an inexpensive way to get the same result. It's basically a change of atmosphere for like dinner or shopping. This trip puts you to together in a strange place where you are forced to rely on each other because you don't know everyone and their dog.


These ideas can be a simple as eating candlelight dinner naked or planning an evening of whip cream. The concept is simple, take normal every day events and add some simple changes to make them romantic or special. Little things, like bringing a flower when picking up your husband/wife at work, can make a big difference. On the flip side, renting a limo and picking them up from work with champagne can also leave quite an impression. It's not hard to make simple changes to normal daily events that transform them into memories.

Try doing something together on a regular basis that can be counted on by both to be accomplished no matter what the status of the relationship. An example being that every Sunday you go for a walk in the park whether you are fighting etc. This kind of activity can provide stability and a sense of security to any relationship.

Set some time aside with your partner and tell them that you would like to kiss every square inch of their body Or you can try and see how much of a tease you can be and see if they can hold out. Simple experimentation can go along way.

Adding things like wine and fruit to a sexual encounter can usually highlight the moment. The way to do that is left simply to your imagination!

Finding out what turns them on is a good investment. If you are turned on by black underwear and perfume then nothing is more powerful that a partner hitting you in the soft spot.

Role playing can often lead to experiences that will not be forgotten. Playing out fantasy's and roles such as being the Police or Tarzan can give people a sensation of difference from the normal you have been doing. Who knows, maybe you can climb trees and swing from vines... in either case you can take this just in imagination or dress up. The possibilities are yours to discover.

What about the idea of placing flower pedals all over the bed and a champagne bottle on the side. Apparently this one goes over extremely well.

Using at trail of notes and music leading to the bathroom tub can provide nice suspense while the real "kicker" comes with the candles, bubbles and your new silk boxers.

Don't forget the occasional fruit dessert courtesy of your partner can be added fire to an already lit candle. Almost all fruit does well especially strawberries... mmmmmm.

Monday, November 26, 2007

Masturbate Together

Masturbation is not just a solo sexual activity. It is also a means of sharing pleasure with your partner. Many people enjoy watching their partner masturbate, and gain pleasure in return from performing this activity for their partner. Masturbation also allows partners with different sex drives to feel satisfied within the relationship. You or your partner can masturbate separately or with each other to relieve sexual tension and attain sexual fulfillment when the other is unable/unwilling to engage in intercourse or sexual play. Ideally, masturbation should be just as much a part of partner sex as kissing and intercourse.

Unfortunately, many individuals have trouble masturbating in front of their partner. They believe masturbation is a solo or secretive act, which they feel embarrassed to share with others. Never pressure someone to perform something they do not want to. If you would like to have your partner masturbate for you, you need to talk to them about it.

Ask your partner how they feel about masturbation and, to be blunt, if they would like to perform for you. Make sure you thoroughly express your interest in the matter and, how erotic and exciting you think it would be. If your partner flat out says no, you should end the subject right there. If they are apprehensive, you may want to ask them how you could make he/she feel more comfortable about masturbating for you. If they say yes… have a good time.

On the subject of a partner whom says no, that is usually not the final answer; given the appropriate amount of time and the right situation. People are inherently sexual creatures and everyone enjoys sexual gratification; well almost everyone. If you allow your partner time to think about masturbating for you, they may warm-up to the idea. Leave the topic out of discussion for a period of time and then bring it back up. Try on your subsequent attempt to describe a fantasy/dream to your partner in which they are masturbating in front of you and how much that turned you on. Your partner wants to satisfy you sexually, always remember that.

The best way you can aid your partner is to actively satisfy yourself and not always expect them to satisfy your sexual needs.

Strip Tease for your Man

Have you ever been at a nightclub dancing, grinding away to the beat of the music knowing your partner is close behind you watching? Whether you are a man, or woman, we are sure you enjoyed the feeling, knowing your partner is soaking it all up. Yet most people leave this unique energy within the walls of a club.

We are talking about doing a strip tease for your partner, in the privacy of your own home. Think of the possibilities. You and your partner will together discovering each others hidden erotic side. The side that wants to please them visual with a dance, and maybe get one in return!

Why Dance

There are many reasons to learn to dance including boosting your own self-confidence, arousing yourself and your partner, and spicing up your love life. The best way to see how erotic dancing can help you is by comparing your usual routine to one you would be able to perform.

Your partner is coming home from work on the average day, if you feel up to it, you may prepare a dinner or maybe a bath, but how often do you really go beyond that… You end up wondering what ever happened to the great sex life you once had, and worse yet, start wondering what happened to the spark you once had.

Rather then accepting this fate, you have the power to bring back the excitement you had in the first kiss you shared!

Using Dance

Your husband will be home from work in 30 minutes. You jump out of the shower, dry your hair, and slip into the sweet little number he bought you last Christmas. Smiling in the mirror, you are already getting excited knowing this will be the first time he's seen you wear it, plus you will be treating him to a dance like no other.

Checking the CD player, filling a small bowl with ice, and opening your favorite bottle of wine, are you almost set. Your make-up is perfect, the natural way he loves it, so sit back, sip your wine, and run your dance through in your mind.

Visualize your husband walking in the door, and you whispering in his ear, "put down your suitcase and don't talk". As he stands back up gently blindfold him with a tie, and guide him to the couch, or that big puffy chair. Press play on the stereo, and let the music take care of the rest. Move his hands towards your legs, so he can feel your soft skin.

Bring them a little higher and let his fingertips caress the material of his favorite lingerie. Relax as much as you can, taking it one beat at a time, and slowing undo his blindfold. Once it's off, he will soak up the view, seeing you dancing slowly just a foot away, and the bottle of wine with two glasses.

Keep moving, offering him a glass, and slide your body to the floor. Still you have had little contact with him, making this experience linger as long as possible. Lying on your back, you arch your chest up. Do you then slide the lingerie off, and run ice over your body?

Or you stand up, and move towards him, rubbing your body against his so he can smell your clean, fresh skin? Maybe you want some eye candy yourself, so you unbutton his shirt, and open it wide, revealing his chest. This dance is all yours, and always will be.

You can even have him return the favor!

Learning to Dance

Whether it is due to a lack of self-confidence, or not knowing how to begin, dancing exotically for a partner can be a very intimidating experience. If only you knew a professional that could help teach you some basic moves and instructions, you could be dancing confidently in less the a couple weeks…

Well, unlike everywhere else on this site where we tell you that it takes practice and communication, you are in luck!

Male Erotic Dancing

Surprise your Lady with a Dance!

Have you ever been one of those guys, standing up against the wall at a club watching all the other dancing and grinding with the ladies? Have you ever wished you could be the one mesmerizing all the talent on the dance floor? It is no secret that confidence has always been the missing ingredient to get you out there shaking it… Now you can have the confidence to dance with your wife, girlfriend, or even some hot girl already dancing.

Call it erotic dancing, dirty dancing, or even just grinding, but sending the right signals on the dance floor can be the difference between being invited for a special after-party and the usual jacking beats that you’ve become used to. A dancing partner can sense your rhythm, and gage your sexual ability by the way you dance! By learning just a few basic moves, you can dramatically increase your batting average, or start rekindling the excitement in your relationship.

Why not change how you think you are, and be who you really are! Virtually every guy has the ability to make a women feel like a little girl again, they just let their inhibitions stand in the way. By setting a few evenings aside for practice, you will not only gain the confidence to get on the dance floor, but even be able to put on a private show for your girl.

If you aren’t sure where to get started, may we suggest the art of exotic dancing volume 6, male exotic dancing. Although this video is geared a towards training professionals, shaking it like the pros is definitely the way to go.