Friday, November 28, 2008

Sex In The Shower for Women

How do you get him erect in warm water? The recipe is pretty simple. Find a couple of inflatable neck pillows, run a bath, and add an invigorating herbal scent instead of something flowery. Get inside, relax for a while, and let your fingers do the walking. Add bath gel or mild soap, and let your hands do the rest. Pull yourself closed so your legs go over his thighs, soap up Mr. Stiffy, and go to town. You can vary the standard bathtub hand job by nestling behind him. Sit upright while he reclines against your breast. Start with the back, shoulder or head massage while you kiss and lick his neck. Reach around him, or slide your hands under his arms, so that you can nab his nipples. Again, work your soapy hands lower and watch his grower become a show-er. Obviously, this technique works well on you with the positions reversed.

It’s pretty easy to figure out that you can do just about everything in the tub or under the shower that you can do lying in bed. You can give your guy a pretty vigorous hand workout standing face to face to him, or with you on your knees. Whenever you’re engaging in shower action, keep your back to the water so that your face isn’t constantly bombarded by shower spray. And don’t forget the rubber mat. You want him to swoon in ecstasy, but you don’t want him to slip and crack his head open. Moreover, your knees will be a lot happier with a little cushioning.

Speaking of being down to your knees, you might want to try some oral action while you’re both in the morning shower. Start with hugs, kisses and soaping him up all over. Drop that little inflatable pillow on the floor of the tub, kneel on it, and don’t forget to come up for air every once in a while. The water will feel great on both of your heads and, when you’re done, you might suggest that he try working with that pulsating shower massage on you.

Princeton Belly Rub

Let’s talk about a dryer technique, which is called the Princeton Belly Rub. The basic position is face-to-face, lying down. The guy on top is in a push-ups position, with elbows bent or on the bed. While your legs are open, his legs are straight out between yours. Then, he can press Mr. Stiffy against your love button and starts rocking back and forth using his toes for leverage. You might try massaging his buttocks or nipples while he’s doing this. After climax, just use your nearby hand towel to dry off your belly. This is such a vigorous workout that it’s a good idea to make sure you’re a satisfied customer first.


While most men enjoy rubbing their penis between a woman’s breasts, it might be impossible for the bosom-ly challenged. An alternative here is the backslider. This is where you lie facedown on your stomach, while he places some lubricant on your bottom (as opposed to IN it), between the cheeks. Your guy lies on top, or straddles on his knees, and glides his shaft between those golden globes. Like the Princeton Belly Rub, it feels great and is totally safe. Just remember that this is only a short step away from backdoor sex – you’ll get your bottom massaged pretty well, too. If you decide to proceed that way, you’ll need more lubricant and a condom.

The Pearl Necklace

This safe and simple alternative has the woman lying on her back with the guy straddling her waist. You can tweak his nipples, stroke his inner thighs, play with his testicles, or play with yourself for that matter. In the meantime, he has his way with himself, masturbating until he reached orgasm – you can help out by squirting a little lube in his hand – and directing the semen where you want it to go – your face, your neck or your breasts. Hence the name pearl necklace, which can mean any style, from a simple choker to a luxurious opera length strand, depending you your partner.

This technique is extremely exciting for men because they know how to handle themselves exactly the way they like, and because they never cease to love watching themselves come. In theory, the woman doesn’t have to do a thing expect suggest the whole procedure. He can have a party all by himself, and you can close your eyes and think about the sale at Saks. But you know our feelings on that: no tennis bracelets for sitting around with a bored look on your face. For better results, you should be actively involved, urging him on, with interest and enthusiasm. For variety, you can work in some of your own hand techniques, directing his ejaculation toward the neck, thereby fashioning your own strand of pearls.


… the nickname for mutual massage. It’s completely safe; you both get what you want and you can use any preferred lubricant as long as you don’t move into intercourse. Although men know that when Mr. Stiffy needs attention, he’ll take it from just about any place he can get, including his old, cherished friend, Mr. Hand. So why do so many men have problems with handling themselves in front of a woman? Some of the reasons popped up in yet another of our informal polls included a fear that you’d think he was gay or – worse – a geek if he knew how to toss off to well, that they’re obsessed with going “all the way” and won’t feel complete unless they do, and that they’re just plain lazy and want to do all the work. (The last response had a slightly bitter note on it; we suggest you try not to think along those lines with your partner.)

One more reason came out when a friend of us told us about an experience she remembered from college. Seems like one of her girlfriends ended up in bed with a guy and fell asleep. When she awoke, she was horrified to find him tossing off and about to shoot a shot on her. We think she probably shouldn’t have been so shocked. After all, boys will be boys, especially in college, and he was probably ready with a story about the dreaded blue balls. But she was out the door before either his explanation or his ejaculation, and the girl told just about everyone she knew. The poor guy became known for his tossing off all around campus, and everybody made fun of him. Maybe it was just college high jinks, but it does appear that men are not quite as comfortable when it comes to self-stimulation. This is probably changing, but you still may encounter a little of the old-school shyness.

Sometimes your partner may not have the right touch for you, so you have to take your tings into your own hands for a while. The obvious thing is for him to handle himself, too. So how do you, as a straight woman, let your partner know that it’s okay for him to toss off? You could try working on yourself, and hope he does the same. You might also let him know that you like to watch him. This is also a way for you to hone your own manually skills by keeping an eye on exactly how he handles himself. However it happens, just remember that everybody likes M&Ms, and not just green ones …

Combo Platters

Just like when you’re at the shoe salon and can’t decide between the Prada pumps, the Ferragamo flats, or the Blahnik boots, the answer is to go for all three, because you’ll always find an occasion to use them. Following the fashion rule of mix and match, you’ll want to combine some of your “do not enter” techniques for maximum enjoyment. After some kissing and massage action, get him into position for a little Princeton Belly Rub. If he likes this, he may get close to climax, so be careful not to let him pass the point of no return. Go back to some hugging and nipple action to cool him down for a couple of minutes. Next, have him lie on his back, then it’s your option to do manual labor, oral action or both. You can work on
yourself a bit during this, too, and he should figure out that it’s his turn to do the same to you. When you both feel really hot and bothered, and you think it’s time to let it rip, the move into position for some M&Ms. Lie on your back, and have him straddle above you on his knees. You may want to work a little magic on him to keep things moving. If you haven’t yet, put some lube or lotion on your hand or tummy to keep things smoothly. Try working in some massage techniques. When you decide you’re ready, just start handling yourself. Keep your eyes on him so that he knows you’re enjoying watching him, and he should overcome any shyness about tossing off on you.

Wait here

“What do I do while I’m waiting for him?” Even though you may be thinking about how your nails look, it’s probably not a good idea to whip out your Revlon and start polishing. Ideally, if you’re doing M&Ms, you should both be able to have an orgasm at around the same time. In rare instances, however, your guy may take a lot longer than you. If you find yourself in this situation, you’ll want to help him along as much as possible. While he’s tossing off, whip our all your tips and work on his nipples, inner thighs, buttocks and testicles. He should get a charge out of that. Holding his testicles with one hand and pressing around the base of his shaft in the “L” formation should also bring him closer to orgasm. If he needs a little more lube, squirt some onto his penis or into his working hand.

The important thing to remember is that you don’t want to seem uninterested in his orgasm, and the truth is, you probably ARE interested in it. He’ll like your hands massaging and touching him, so he doesn’t feel like he’s flying solo. He’ll also like it if you gaze admiringly at Mr. Stiffy and give him a warm, affectionate sigh of happiness for a job well done. That way, he’ll know you’re happy and that it’s okay for him to let loose, too. So hold on, relax and enjoy the view.

Position 69s: Whipping, Hummers and Tinglers

However, there’s an awful lot of acrobatics involved I this style of 69, and they probably don’t do it as much as the porno mags would have you believe. For one thing, if the man is above you with a hard-on, it’s pretty difficult to get it into your mouth at the correct angle. And if you’re on top, he has to be short enough, and you have to be tall enough, to make all the parts fir together. Besides, you’ll probably get pretty tired of bobbing your snatch up and down so he doesn’t suffocate.

Let’s suppose the heights are right and you’re on top. Slide your buckwheat roll under his neck to support his head and bring it where you want it. You might try sitting on his chest for a bit, knees bent along his sides, while leaning forward to give him a BJ. Suggest that he massages your back and buttocks, since he’ll be looking at them anyway. He’ll probably be creative enough to figure out what else he can do to you with his hands. Now, you will be approaching his erect manhood from the opposite side. This angle can be good or bad, depending on his equipment, and where he likes to be licked most. If there is a slight curve in his penis, then you might be able to allow a bit more of it to enter your mouth which is good. You will still want to keep one hand at the base of his penis to keep it standing at attention, and you will also be able to add the ring and stroke techniques as desired. This position is generally good because it allows for deeper penetration, a high degree of control on your part and is pretty comfortable for you. Besides him needing a long and nimble tongue, the disadvantage is that he can’t see the action, and we all know how much he loves to see his magic wand stand tall and proud. Forget this position if he is really tall or has a pipsqueak dick.

Upstanding Citizen

There are two positions that involve your partner standing up. The first is very basic. We’ve all seen movies where the guy’s pants are wrapped around his ankles while he gets head from her. This type of oral action usually occurs before you even hit the bed, and can be very exciting in the heat of the moment. It’s even better when you use one hand on his balls or nipples. We recommend doing it just long enough to keep things hot, then climb into bed, or you may not even get your bra off before he lets his load loose.

The second standing position is one you might try in the middle of long, sensual foreplay. Coaching him into position may be a bit difficult, since he probably won’t have any idea where you’re going with this. If he’s already standing, then just keep stroking his penis while you get into position on the bed. The basics are: The man stands at the side of the bed, while you lay on your back across the bed, your head hanging just a bit over the side. Needless to say, this position won’t work if you’re still sleeping on your college futon. The bed has to be high enough for your mouth to be at the same height as his strait and narrow.

The big advantage to this is that the bend in your neck will allow for maximum entry into your mouth and even your throat. Keep in mind, however, that he will be thrusting his Johnson into your mouth, and you will have far less control that you do in other positions. Try placing your hands on his thighs to regulate his movements. If he’s good, he’ll lean forward and massage your outstretched – i.e., firm-looking – body. He may also begin some oral action on you. But keep in mind that your head is upside down and you probably shouldn’t stay that way too long, or you may end up passing out, and nothing ruins a perfect evening quicker that that.

Putting on a Good Face

Suppose your kissing and he’s on top, just wriggle down under him until you reach his shaft. Much as he might during intercourse, he’ll know to hold himself up with his arms while he inserts his penis into your mouth. He’ll probably like this a lot since it comes close to intercourse, he can see the action, and there’s really not a lot he can do on you while you’re down there. He’ll also see the rewards of doing regular push-ups at the gym. He’ll probably start thrusting in and out, which means your head can stay in once place. But if he’s too vigorous, or on the smaller scale of things, you need to control his movements with your hands and head. This position can be a little rough on the neck since you have to bob your head up and down to maintain a grip on his penis. Try slipping your buckwheat pillow under your neck and it should be smooth sailing from here.


There are a few little extras worth mentioning here that will ensure that your performance goes from Oscar-nominated to award winner. They can be incorporated into the BJ at any point, and the added variation will be fun for you to try and great for him to feel.

Dick Whipping

Don’t worry; we’re not talking leather crops here. Perhaps a better term might be dick slapping, although that sounds pretty intimidating, too. The movement is simply this: As you slide his shaft out of your mouth, flick his penis against your cheek for a couple of gentle, and we mean gentle, slaps. Try it a little bit harder if he seems to enjoy it. The point of this is not that it’s “rough sex” or anything, it’s simply another sensation that will feel good and round out your best BJ technique. It also gives you a chance to breathe and recoup for your next round of oral action.


A hummer is another light sensation that he will enjoy. A hummer is really just a moan or hum during the blowjob, which will create a slight vibration in your throat and, in turn, on his penis. We’re not saying that you need to belt out four bars of “Don’t Cry for Me, Argentina” during sex, just a low hum or moan in your throat will do nicely. Try changing the pitch of your hum to vary the sensation.


A tingler requires a little advanced work, because you’ll need a supply of cinnamon or mint mouthwash nearby. Put a small amount in your mouth; remember that you don’t want to end up swallowing it. As you go back down on him, release the mouthwash slowly so that it drips down his shaft. The tingle sensation will drive him wild, and it has the added bonus of preventing “dick breath” (see below) when you move back to kiss him on the lips.

Your handy glass of water with ice will add yet another super sensation. During one of your delicate sips amidst the oral action, take an ice cube in your mouth. When you go back down on him, the combination of cold ice and the warmth of your mouth will drive him into ecstasy. As the ice melts, it will also keep him well lubed for extended oral activity. If you’re feeling really adventurous, try taking the cube out of your mouth and sliding it up and down his manhood. The warmth of your mouth after that will feel like a cashmere blanked to him, so this might also be a good time to mention how much you’d like a Chanel cashmere twin set.


Perhaps your biggest concern about the world’s best blowjob is gagging. Well, there are times when smaller can be infinitely more manageable. There is no surefire way we know of to completely prevent gagging every time. A lot of it has to do with your relaxation level, and how comfortable you feel. A lot has to do with the control of your breathing. The tips in this book are designed to make you feel confident and in control of matters what you’re doing, or with whom you are doing it. Relax your muscles. Your first reaction when a hot rod is heading towards the back of your throat is to tense up. Remember that Mr. Stiffy is your friend and that he will only feel as comfortable as you do. Also, the less your neck and head are bent, the more room you will have to fit his penis inside your mouth. The best way to prevent gagging is to coordinate your breathing with the in-and-out movements. Take a deep breath in while you can, then release it through your nose as you go back down on your partner.

A note on Swallowing

Without getting into a whole big discussion on the power politics of swallowing, we’re here to tell you that you should NEVER do anything you don’t want to. If you choose to swallow, that is your decision. If you choose not to, then you certainly have nothing to apologize for. Especially since you will have just given him the most spectacular, mind-blowing, spine-tingling blowjobs he’s ever had.

Dick Breath

Some woman are concerned about “dick breath” when they kiss their partner after going down on him. This is another of those preconceptions that you should really let go of. Assuming you’re both tidy and have showered within a reasonable amount of time, you shouldn’t have too much to worry about. If you’re absolutely nuts about it, try taking a sip of water or wine before kissing him. And if he thinks it’s gross, just remember that it was his dick, after all.

A Versatile Guide To Nipples for Women

So the stage is set. You’ve got the guy, and you’ve got the goods. Now you’re ready to dig into the first course of a memorable five-star meal.

Recently, a friend of ours announced he was taking a leave from his job and was moving to Spain to be with his paramour. When we asked why, he said because the sex was like nothing he had ever experienced. This new love kept him hot, and hard, all the time. After he caught us eagerly eyeing his zipper to see if this was true, we quizzed him to find out what was so special. Was it the technique? Did they do it five times a day? Did he something we didn’t know? The secret, according to our friend, was that his knowledgeable girlfriend cleverly controlled the whens, wheres and whats of their fooling around. Our friend never knew what to expect – and he loved it!

Decent men don’t think about which partner is taking the lead all that much. It just kind of happens. Take a lesson from us: If you want to win in Wimbledon, you’ve got to open with a great serve. Don’t be afraid to start the set. If you’re worried that he’ll think you’re an overanxious amazon, just remember that many men fantasize about being tied up by buxom Barbarellas from Deep Space Nine. Our informal poll of men and women tells us that guys love to have their partners orchestrate; probably more often then you think. The notion of him lying back with someone else calling the shots – and doing most of the work – is pretty appealing. You already know the surefire signal: “Just Grab It”. This chapter will give you many tips on how to keep the ball rolling.

Lip Tips

We all know good kissers and bad kissers, so what makes a great kiss? Loose lips, open mouth, and open attitude. The fact that you’re reading this book means you’ve got an open attitude – or are pretty darn close. But there are other places you can kiss him that will rev up his engine. He’ll think you’ve been training for the Indy 500 and, with these tips, you’re sure to scoop the checkered flag.

After a long, lovely series of kisses on the mouth, it’s time to heat things up and head south. Kisses on the neck are nice, but it’s you tongue that will put him into high gear. Light licks and soft breathing into his ear will send shivers down his spine. Move lower to the most sensitive spot on his neck and throat, which is along the line where his whiskers vanish. Using the flat part of your tongue, and a firm pressure, lick up and down along that line. If he’s too ticklish, lighten up and move on to other parts.

Another good spot is the curve where his neck meets his shoulder. In general, almost any kind of tongue touches in this area will rock the racket. Keep heading south to his underarms. If his hands are clasped behind his neck, you’ve got an open invitation. If not, deftly take hold of his wrist and move his arm up above his head. The underarm area is where men go to town. One reader of us said that while she loved to give blowjobs, there was no way she was sticking her face under some guys arm. We agree that a mouthful of Arid Extra Dry is a lousy way to stick to your Weight Watchers plan, which is why the pre-sex shower is a must.

There are two areas to approach. Start by licking the super smooth spot directly below the hair under his arms for a while, and then go right to the center of his underarm. Use your lips and gums to massage him, moving from section to section. Another sexy spot is along the inside of his arm, in between the biceps and triceps. The skin in these areas tends to be very soft and, often, neglected.

When you’re bored with his armpits, keep licking and mouthing your way down to another area that’s often overlooked: his inner thighs. Slide down and shift positions so that your legs are hanging over the side of the bed and your head is in between his legs. You may already have noticed that many men have a little bald spot on their inner thighs. We don’t know if this is a generic quirk or the result of too-tight jeans, but it’s certainly a great place to play around in. Use the same mouth motion you used under his arms. Start with the bald spot and work your way to the line where his torso meets his leg. Say hi to Mr. Stiffy so he won’t feel left out. A soft stroke with your hand will let him know that you’ll be back later to take good care of him.

A versatile guide to nipples

We already mentioned how some of our readers were amazed to learn that men have feelings in their nipples. To some guys, this is a big nothing. But to others, theses petite protrusions are two major points on the playing field. Our polls show a fifty-fifty split: Fifty per cent say “don’t bother” and fifty per cent are nipple queens.

The only way to find out if a guy’s nipples are in the hot zone is to test the waters. Lazy licking is pretty boring, but he might like the sensation of bites, tugs or tweaks. We tell you everything you always wanted to know about nipples but were afraid to ask:

The first thing you’ll want to do is prime pecs. If your gentleman du jour has been working out, he’ll have hight-pecs inward to send the sensation toward the nipple. He’ll also like the fact that you’ve noticed all his hard work at the gym. You want to get the nipples to the point where it’s almost begging for attention, because when you finally touch it, it will be supersensitive.

Once you’ve primed the pecs, use your tongue and try licking and flicking. Then softly blow some air on the nipple. The sensation of cool air on the moist nipple should wow him with waves of pleasure. Stay with this for about twenty seconds – no more. Proceed to nibbling just the nipple with your lips covering your teeth, and then take the entire pink part into your mouth and do the same. Again, another twenty seconds for this is plenty.

Now try the same routine with your teeth. A word of caution here: Start with gentle bites, not chews. If he likes this – and you should just ask him – increase the pressure. Some guys like a really strong grip, and others find that it hurts. Don’t get carried away as if you were munching on macadamia nuts. Use front teeth only, and stop if he says “ouch.” Another approach is to use your tongue and your teeth together. Place your two front teeth over the top of the nipple as you massage it from the underside with your tongue.

Next, try tugging on his nipples, one at the time, and then both together. By this we don’t mean yanking on them like you were trying to grab the ring on a carousel, but rather giving him a series of sensual squeezes. Grasp the nipple tips with the ball of your thumb and the side of your forefinger, and tug slightly away from his body. Alternate back and forth, between your right and left hands, sort of like milking a cow. If he seems to like it, add a little tweak and twisting action to your tug, continuing to pull the nipple tips away from his body. Most guys love it. Men think it’s like opening a safe, milking a cow, and pulling taffy at the same time.

A word on grips: Light as a feather does nothing here. If a guy’s nipples are sensitive, he wants to feel what you’re doing. Start gently, check his face to gauge his reaction, and then try a little harder. Some guys like a death grip on their nipples; for them, you might consider shopping around for nipples clamps, or asking your dentist for a pair of bib clips the next time you get your teeth cleaned. One last nipple tip: An ice cube from your handy glass of water on the nightstand can also make his tips tingle.

A friend in kneads is a friend indeed

Everyone likes a good massage, whether manual or mechanical. After a hard workout at the gym, your buoyant beau will relish a sensual stroking on his neck, chest, arms, back and legs. Mix up your massages with a gentle back scratching. We already told you to be careful not to pinch and pull hair, especially if he looks like Curious George in the buff. You may not know this, but most men really like a vigorous head massage. You’d kill him if he messed up your hot new hairdo, but he probably won’t care – unless he’s on Rogaine. Start at the temples and work your way back above the ears, using a firm pressure with your fingertips.

Assuming he’d facedown, move your hands toward his neck and shoulders; use just your thumbs lightly on his neck, and then a firmer grip on that often-tense area between his neck and shoulders. Use your whole hand to knead the muscles, adding some extra pressure from your thumbs. Don’t do this for too long or he may end up snoring before Mr. Stiffy goes soaring. While massaging his back, concentrate on the muscles that run along the sides of his spine. Never press on the spine itself.

Keep working your way down until you encounter the glorious globes of his gluteus maximus. An Argentine acquaintance tells us that the bottom burnishing is big in Buenos Aires; it may even be more popular than soccer. Start by pressing your thumbs into the epicenter of each buttock. Using a pretty forceful pressure, rotate your thumbs while you squeeze the rest of the buttock with your fingers. Whether your grip is strong from carrying grocery bags or Bergdorf bags, don’t be afraid to show your strength.

Blowjob Basics - Just put your lips together and …

So what is the one thing that most men seem willing to die for? The thing that can turn the most high-power businessman into a sniveling idiot? The thing that reduces Ph.D. linguists to phrases such as “Oh, yeah!”? We all know the answer – a good blowjob!

First of all, it feels great. Second, guys have the pleasure of watching and experiencing it at the same time. And third, they get to have an orgasm without doing a lot of work. Of course, how much work he does before or after is up to you.

One woman we know summed up her philosophy about oral sex in one blunt statement: “I ain’t putting nothin’ in my mouth unless I can cut it with a knife.” We suggest she gets a better attitude; a number of famous ladies in history have used their oral expertise to archive great success in international politics, high finance and royal society. Madonna even showed a little of her skill on the silver screen. If you can make the most of your mouth motion, you can have just about anything.

Just the suggestion of mouth mastery will make men quiver. Frederica, a friend of ours, found a unique way to distinguish herself at parties. By demonstrating her uncanny ability to tie a cherry stem into a knot using only her tongue, she was always surrounded by hopeful suitors. Sometimes, she didn’t even have to demonstrate, as the mere mention of it was enough to get guys thinking. She’s very popular.

Blowjob Basics

These BJ basics are guaranteed to blow his mind as well as his horn:
The key to a good blowjob exists just as much in your head as in your hands and mouth. He’s allowing you to take control over the most sensitive and precious parts of his body. Deep down he knows that you could knock him off in a nanosecond. Remember, his penis is your friend, and you’ll want to give it as much attention as you would your very, very best friend. You really have to show respect and concentrate big time on what you’re doing. And he’ll know if you’re really being friends with Mr. Stiffy, or just being a phony.

We cannot overemphasize your proper state of mind. He wants to feel that you are enthusiastically devoting your talents to making his penis happy, and that you’re not just doing it because you had too much to drink. BJs under those circumstances are not as memorable for him. This activity requires your full attention.

Although many people would have you to believe that the key to a blowjob is sucking. However, his penis is not a lollipop. The central action is to move the lips in an up and down, or back and fourth, motion. What makes this act so delicious is that you can vary the pressure of your lips, take the penis out of your mouth, lick the sides and the top, and use your tongue and hands in a variety of ways that will deliver a scintillating series of sensations.

The building blocks of BJs consist of mouth only, mouth and tongue, and mouth and hands. Building with these blocks is your quickest route to a Park Avenue penthouse. Don’t take the power of a blowjob lightly. Know what to do, and when and how to do it. Whether it’s the overture, the entr’acte or the grand finale, the BJ rightly deserves a place of honor in your sexual repertoire.

If you’re starting with Mr. Softee, you should have no trouble putting the whole thing in your mouth while you gently suck and lick. Don’t start moving your mouth up and down until he’s at least semi erect. As with your hand job technique, making a ring around the base of the shaft will help make him hard quicker. And Mr. Softee will turn into Mr. Stiffy in no time.

Before you really get into it, take a sip from your handy glass of water. Kneel between his legs so you can show respect for his prized possession. Put both hands into the L position around the base of the shaft. Lick the whole tip, and then use your tongue to lick up and down the side. Now it should be slick enough to slide into your mouth easily. Covering your teeth with your lips, and keeping your mouth taut, glide the head inside and lick the sensitive spot underneath with both the tip and the flat part of your tongue. Amateurs may think they should use a snakelike quickie lick, but your lick should be more like what you would use on your favorite flavor of ice cream cone.

Now comes the essential part: Still covering your teeth, and maintaining your pressure, proceed down the shaft as far as you can go in one feel swoop. Woman usually think it’s better to go up and down, letting a little more into their mouths each time. That’s for amateurs. Let him know right away that you’re going to take good care of him. Relax the muscles in you neck and jaw as much as possible. Try to breathe through your nose. Being in this position allows you to control how far in it goes. Pull your mouth back up the entire length of the shaft, right over the ridge of the tip. Just as in the ring technique of the hand job, he’ll love the sensation of your lips popping over this ridge. Take it out of your mouth for a second, and go right back down again. This will give you a chance to breathe.

Continue the full up-and-down-the –entire-shaft motion at a sensual, slow pace. Once you get bored with this, usually after two to three minutes, it’s time to start using your hand. One hand will always remain at the base of the penis to keep it in place. With the other hand, make a ring with your thumb and forefinger, and follow the movement of your lips up and down. Maintain the slow pace. Remember to breathe when you get to the top.

When you’re ready to make him really moan, switch from the ring to the magic upstroke, twist, over and down technique, combining a hand stroke with a mouth stroke. Coordinating these motions will take some practice, but it will be well worth it. Still keep the pace slow and steady, or it may be over before you know it.

Don’t forget to pay attention to his nipples, if he likes that. This will give you something else to concentrate on so you don’t get bored, and it will feel great for him. Let your hands work their magic on his penis for a bit, while you use your mouth on his inner thighs, balls, lower stomach and that sensitive spot where his legs meet the body. Try licking this area first to soften it up, and then use your lips to lightly squeeze and massage it. Once you get really good at this, you can have your mouth on his shaft while one hand tweaks his nipples and the other holds his balls.

We recommend torturing him a bit to remind him just how good you really are. You can, in fact you should, pause in the middle of a blowjob any old time you feel like it. Stop what you’re doing. Remove your hand and mouth, and move back up his stomach and chest to his face. Planting a couple of kisses on his lips, neck and shoulders about now will let him cool down for a few minutes. Stopping, starting again, stopping and starting again will make for a bigger, better and much more powerful orgasm, he’ll never forget!

After you’ve stopped and started a few times, and you’ve got him just about ready to burst, return to the upstroke, twist, over and down-mouth combo, work in some head rub action, and go into a fast ring technique-mouth combo. Many men say the difference is that woman rarely go hard and fast enough toward the end. We’re not telling you to get sloppy, just build up the crescendo to a rousing climax. When he’s ready to let it rip, move your head out of the way, or prepare to swallow – more on this later. Keep stroking with your hand until it’s over.

Now might be an excellent time to mention an engagement ring, or suggest that trip to Paris you’ve been wanting.

The uncut version

We seem to know a lot of savvy women who get flustered with foreskin. If your partner is uncircumcised, there are a couple of other tricks that will surprise him. Put your hand around the shaft so that the foreskin still covers the head. Keeping your fingers in the same position, as if you were changing a light bulb, gently stroke the foreskin from the ridge of the head out toward the tip. If there’s enough skin left at the end, you tweak it closed, moving your fingers slightly back and forth sideways, while still keeping the whole head covered. Now you can really begin to make him moan by pulling the foreskin back in stages, bit by bit. Uncover just the tip of the head, and using a probing lick, work your tongue in and out around the head while you still hold the foreskin in place. Next, uncover the entire head, but keep the foreskin just under the ridge as you lick the head. When he’s really, really hard, the foreskin should stay put once it’s pulled back completely. But don’t worry if it flops back sometimes; this will just be another interesting sensation for him. A word on uncut orgasms: Not only is it nice to see a straight shooter, but if you keep the foreskin down at the base, he shouldn’t have to jump up and wash immediately afterward.

Advanced techniques

Once you’ve mastered BJ basics, you’ll be ready to move on to some more advanced action. Some of these positions may be a little unfamiliar to him. But remember that your movements will remain pretty much the same no matter what position you’re in. The degree of control you maintain will also vary. When you’re about to go into a major position change, maintain contact by massaging him, kissing him and lightly stroking his penis. This will prevent any awkward lapses in action that could detract from your Oscar-winning performance.

Side by Side

One position that is fairly comfortable for both the blower and the blowee is side by side. This doesn’t necessarily mean that your bodies are opposed to each other. He lies on his side, with his erection facing you. You are also lying on your side, except that your face is level with his penis. The advantage to this position is that you can relax you head and neck because the side of your head is resting on the bed, or on your buckwheat pillow. You won’t have quite as much room to maneuver your hands, but you’ll still be able to incorporate the ring technique and the up, twist, over and down. He’ll like this position, too, because it will allow him to thrust his hips with a little more freedom. Since he’ll be thrusting, remember that your breathing is very important. If Mr. Stiffy is heading all the way in, you’ll need to breathe when he’s on the way out, otherwise you might gag.

Wednesday, November 26, 2008

Vagina Massage Techniques

When performing the following, make sure that your fingers are well lubricated. There is nothing more uncomfortable (and painful) than a dry finger roughly rubbed across a woman's clitoris or pushed inside. See the sexual lubricants product page for information on useful lubricants. In most cases, proper foreplay stimulating a woman’s erogenous zones will usually avoid the problem of dryness. Nevertheless, it never hurts to keep a "tube of lube" sitting nearby. Under no circumstance should you put pressure or blame on your partner for this if it happens; work with her to get around it. It’s written all over this and every other sexual information site, but in case you have forgotten, communication is key.

Vaginal Massage
Most women masturbate by rubbing a finger or two over their clitoris, sometimes "through" the skin of their inner or outer lips, in a circular or back-and-forth motion. You can do this too, and it is most helpful to ask, or better yet, have her show you how she likes it done. Lie down side by side, and put your hand over hers while she shows you what she likes. You can also try having her hand over top of yours guiding.

Another technique which women are very receptive of is to have your partner lie on her back, spread her vaginal lips wide apart with your outer fingers, and use your middle finger to rapidly slide up and down her vagina rapidly and lightly grazing her clitoris. This motion alone will often bring a woman to orgasm. Don’t forget to use your mouth while you are fingering, keep kissing her, her neck, and all her other erogenous zones.

An excellent way to begin manual stimulation is to stick one, and later two or more, finger(s) inside her, with your palm cupped over the mons area. We're talking about that fleshy "mound" over her pubic bone. Your finger should have freedom to move in and out freely while the palm of your hand can add pressure against her vulva and clitoris. Once you get better, you can start moving your palm to add more stimulation.

Another, more intense motion is to position your hand so that you have one or two fingers inside her with your palm facing her body. Now bend your fingers inward and move them in rapid but short movements focusing on her G Spot. This technique can quickly bring your woman to orgasm, especially when combined with cunnilingus.

Female Ejaculation 101

There is only one mystery greater then that of the female orgasm, it is female ejaculation. We've all heard stories about friends who have been with women who can ejaculate, but how many of us have actually experienced it first hand? When asked to describe the ejaculations, responses are often quite similar, "It's liquid, it's clear, it's wet, and it squirts". Beyond this, the details have always been quite gray.

Let's begin by understanding what the elements of the ejaculate are. The four main ingredients are Glucose, prostatic acid phosphatase (an enzyme which is characteristic of the prostatic component of semen), urea, and creatinine. The last two ingredients are commonly found in urine, but are in lower levels than in urine. So there is some urine in the ejaculate. Some studies conclude that in some women the ejaculate is more like urine, and in other women it more like a prostate fluid. Until this question is answered fully, its safest to assume that it is a bit of both. The quantity of ejaculate can range from a few drops, to a shower of it.

Where does the ejaculate come from? There are several theories here on this, but remaining constant amongst all of them is that female ejaculation comes from G spot stimulation (please read G spot section for more information). When the G spot is stimulated over a period of time, the spongy tissue that creates this area fills with fluid. Women who can ejaculate often hold back, thinking that it is urine. The ejaculate does come out of the urethra, like urine, so that is where the confusion takes place.

So what's left? You might want to learn how to get someone to ejaculate, or how to do it yourself. Like exploring everything else new in your experience of sex, you should work towards it, but not put unnecessary stresses on yourself by making it your goal. Also, it is not known whether all women are able to ejaculate, so if you or your partner is unable to - don't worry, but perhaps keep trying once in a while. As you already know, the ejaculate comes out the urethra, so it feels a lot like urine. Apart from people who love golden showers, how many people do you know who feel comfortable enough to risk urinating on or around their partners? It may be a good idea to allow yourself or your partner some privacy to understand this function of their body; at the very least let your partner now that you are excited about it, not grossed out. That being said, great places to try this out include the shower or bathtub, in or near water, or on top of some old blankets that you don't mind getting wet.

Good luck - and please be sure to write in and share your experiences of this wonderful type of orgasm with others...

Analingus Techniques

Getting Started

Before you start poking around her backside, make sure that your partner is ok with it. Some women are not, and won’t react gently when they feel an “intruder”. If you want to try, but your partner doesn’t, don’t try to force them to do it. You have a much better chance that she will try to do it if you have her cooperation, rather than arguing with you. Bring the topic up gently on occasion, and help her open up to this experience by getting her comfortable in the area and with the idea.

Without going too close to her anus, explore her inner thighs and bum with your hands and mouth. Some women have had bad experiences with anal play in their history, mostly because their partner moved much faster, or less gently, than they should have. If this is true in your case, getting her to talk about the topic is a great way to start. By learning where they went wrong, you can prevent that experience from happening again.

Cleanliness is essential with virtually all forms of this form of play. A bath or a shower is a great primer, and can be the start of the festivities. Once your finger(s), penis, or sex toy has been inside her anus, don't put it anywhere else until you wash it. Carelessness in this regard can cause a very serious infection.

Make sure to use a good lubricant (and plenty of it!), and start as slowly as possible the first few times. Assess her responses to your actions and react accordingly


Before engaging in analingus, make sure to thoroughly wash the area. Once clean, licking this area of the body is virtually no different then licking any other, and can be very stimulating for your partner. Like other play in this area, don’t just jump right in; build up to it and allow for your partner to get comfortable. A great way to start performing analingus is to move into it when you are performing cunnilingus. The area is really sensitive, so run your tongue around in circular motions, use your tongue to tickle, and when you are both ready for it, even to penetrate.

Access to her anus is a little tougher then to her vagina, but there are several positions that are ideal; lying on her back with a large pillow to arch her bum up, her sitting on your face, her bent over with legs spread, lying on her back pulling her legs back, and her upside down with her legs spread.

Anal Fingering

Using her natural vaginal lubricant or saliva may work, but we strongly recommend that you use lubricant, especially the first few times. If you are paranoid about what could be on your finger when you pull it out, a regular or finger condom may be a good idea. Apply a fair amount of lubricant on your finger, and start by making little circles around her anus with a finger. If you feel her clenching her bum, you need to find a way to help her relax, as progressing deeper while she is “tight” will only cause another bad experience. Kissing her on the mouth and all over her body, performing cunnilingus, are just a few ways to ease her anxieties. If you get a chance to put on some music and candles ahead of time, it should help her be more comfortable.

Once inside, you can start playing to see what she likes. Start slowly and softly, and make sure to pay attention to her reactions when you speed up and/or add pressure. A few basic techniques to get you started are move your finger in a circular motion exploring the walls of her rectum, moving in circular motions along a specific region, moving in and out, rotating your hand to spin your finger. After learning what you can from these techniques, start mixing two, three or more of them together. Just always remember that it is a very sensitive area; so be gentle and watch her reactions before going further.

Anal Intercourse

Anal sex is quite a different ball game than using your finger. Even if she does enjoy your finger pleasuring her there, she may be apprehensive about putting something so large as your penis in there. The keys to success are; plenty of lubrication, relaxation on her part, and a slow, gentle approach. Let her tell you when she wants it harder or faster and don't be shy about playing with her vagina at the same time. For more on this please see the Anal Intercourse article.

Anal Toys

Butt Plugs
A butt plug is a toy that is inserted in the rectum. Once inserted, you can leave it where it is or move it in and out. Many people enjoy the sense of fullness that butt plugs bring, much in the same way women enjoy the fullness experienced during vaginal sex. Others enjoy the sensation of inserting something in their anus.

Butt plugs come in many different shapes and sizes. Some of the sizes seem silly, but some people are obsessed with larger toys, so the companies willingly accommodate. The most popular plugs are less than an inch in diameter, and roughly 4 inches long.

Climax Beads
Beads are some of the most popular anal toys. They range from soft to firm-textured, usually consist of four to ten balls connected with a piece of nylon cord or plastic/rubber, and there are a wide selection in ball sizes. Whichever type you are interested in, they are virtually the best toys to ease into anal play.

Climax beads are a very simple toy to use. After being covered by lubricant, they are inserted into the anus bead by bead. Most people then leave the beads where they are until near the point of orgasm, at which time the beads are pulled out one by one. This can greatly intensify an orgasm to the point that it is too intense to handle. We suggest starting with smaller balls, and then moving up, as you get more experienced.

And like everything else involved with anal play, cleanliness is of the highest importance. Make sure to clean your toy thoroughly after using it, store it in a dry dust free place, and be very gentle when starting out.

Using Sex Toys on Men: Rings, Sleeves, Pumps, Extenders

Traditionally, the role of the man in the bedroom has been emphasized on pleasing the woman. But, in this day and age, where equality is at the brink of everything that governs, it’s time for us to show our men the same teasing, stimulation, sensations, and erotic pleasures that we’ve enjoyed for centuries.

The Male Erogenous “Spots”

Unfair as it may seem, guys actually have 4 linked erogenous “spots”. They are known as the P spot, F spot and R spot and the prostate gland. The P spot stands for the perineum which is the strip of skin (about one inch long) between the anus and the scrotum. This area is full of nerve endings that can often bring on orgasm when stroked in the heat of passion. The F spot is composed of the loose skin just where the head and the shaft of the penis connect. Gentle stroking of this area at any time is bound to elicit a wonderful response. (Hint: it can be a great way to wake up your man!) The last “spot”, the R spot, is the line that can be seen running up the underside of the penis. Again, this area is full of nerve endings and is bound to make things jump to life when stroked, licked, or tickled.

Besides the “3 spots” on your guy, there are many other highly sensitive erogenous zones. Of particular mention is the prostate gland. It is the little gland that wraps about the urethra at the base of the bladder in the male body. It’s responsible for producing the male hormone testosterone and for making the thick fluid that makes up “pre-cum” and the fluid of ejaculate. Gentle stimulation of the prostate can be incredibly sensual for men.

Other erogenous (sexually sensitive areas) include the inner thighs, which are a great place for soft stroking fingers, curious tongues and warm kisses. The nipples, just like yours and mine, are fun to play with and incredibly stimulating to most men. Try different types of stimulation to see what he likes best; nibbling, soft tickling, pinching, twisting, licking, or a mix of it all. The last erogenous zone that I find most men love is their ass. I have yet to meet a guy who doesn’t like to have his ass grabbed, caressed, stroked, etc. (However, it’s always a good idea to keep communication open around the back end and not to give any anal play unless he is comfortable with it.) Just because those are the major erogenous zones, don’t be afraid to explore, find ticklish areas, stroke his whole body, caress him with kisses, he’ll love every spot you find on him.

Beating Toy Taboos

If your guy seems a little shy when it comes to new things in the bedroom, a great way to bring up the idea of sex toys is to casually bring up the issue in a non sexual environment. This way, it’s conversational and non threatening. It is easy to find articles in all types of magazines that discuss the use of sex toys between couples and may help him to see that this is not a unusual act, but a well accepted one that in no way threatens his masculinity, nor criticizes any of your past experiences together. Sex toys are now widely excepted and available; the world is starting to realize that sex toys offer a unique way to explore our body as well as our partners and can add a great twist to a regular sex routine.

Another tantalizing way to get him involved is to let him watch you use your toys. Many men love to watch women masturbate, especially when he knows he can join in. Touch yourself; bring out your favorite toy. Let him use your toy on you; tell him where you like it, what you like, what you want, how it makes you fell. Then, if he seems open to the idea, ask him if you can give him a turn. If he says yes, great, if not, don’t give up sometimes these things take a little while to get used to. Now it’s finally time to enter the world of boys’ toys.

The Best Toy of All

We’ll start by looking at using our own toys first as this is the way the majority of men are introduced to sex toys; through girlfriends, lovers, or significant others wanting to share the fun. The great thing about starting this way is that it is a toy that you are comfortable and familiar with. He may have already seen it before, or be impressed if he didn’t know about it. The number one toy owned by women is a vibrator; dildo shaped, mini for clitoral stimulation, or the egg. Therefore, let’s focus on how we can please our guys with these fun little (or big as it may be!) gadgets.

The typical vibrator may be a little intimidating to a guy with its length and width. However, they can be great massage tools to start with. Start off with areas that won’t be threatening, tease his nipples, his thighs, and his penis. For many men, a fear of homosexuality may be aroused with anal discussion during sex. If this is a potential in your relationship but it is an area you would like to explore, wait until your man is more comfortable with the concept of sex toys for his pleasure first. The clitoral stimulator (or mini vibrator) can be used in all the same ways as the regular sized vibrator. However, because of its small size, it can be used in several other more convenient situations. If you are into giving oral, try using the mini on his perineum, at the base of his scrotum, or along his shaft while you lick and suck him. You can also take the bottom and lick or suck his testicles while teasing his shaft and the head of his penis with the mini. Mix things up and see what he likes. Finally, the egg, which is a very small egg shaped vibrator (usually with wire coming out of it attaching to a battery pack) is a great way to start, it’s small and unobtrusive. Men seem to enjoy this toy best when held at the base of the penis, between the testicles or on the perineum during foreplay, oral sex and intercourse.

The sometimes taboo area of male stimulation is the prostate. Your guy may or may not be into this. If he’s not sure, sometimes slow progress is a great way to go. Start by just doing a lot of ass play. Then the next time you two are together try some anus stimulation without any probing. After that he may be interested in a small amount of finger insertion. Just take things slow and he’ll soon let you know whether it is an area of pleasure or not.

Here we’ll look at a comfortable technique for giving him extra stimulation if he’s interested. From either in front or behind of him, stimulate his anus to help the muscles relax. Just as with anal sex (if you have ventured into that domain) it is important that the anus be relaxed and only gentle pressure be used to avoid both physical and psychological injury. Make sure you apply plenty of lube before very slowly and gently inserting your index finger up to the second knuckle. Curve your finger slightly towards his penis from inside. This should allow you to touch his prostate. For continued stimulation use a “come here” type motion against his prostate, tap it lightly, or slide your finger or a toy in and out of the rectum, achieving the same type of stimulation. For your own protection or comfort finger cots or disposable gloves can also be used, again with lots of lubrication. Be careful not to use a lubricant that may break down the materials of the glove or the finger cot.

If these tricks do the job to get him interested in sex toys, or if you would like to start with something a little more adventurous, take a look at the next five exciting categories of toys that can pleasure. The five different categories of toys to choose from include pumps, masturbation sleeves, erection rings, ticklers, and extenders. There are endless possibilities from these toys girls! Let’s find out how we can use these toys on our boys…

Penis Pumps

Penis pumps are a long standing joke in the movie world. However, they can be a lot of fun. A penis pump won’t permanently enlarge his penis, and it won’t make it thicker or stronger. However, it will stimulate him and pull the blood into the penis making him incredibly aroused and increasing both the size of his erection and the length of time he maintains it. It’s easiest to apply the pump if he is slightly hard. Some lip and tongue action is always a great idea. Then hold his penis in your hand and slowly slide the penis pump down over his erection. Now, depending on the type of pump it has you can either start pumping by hand, or hook it up to the pump source. Start off low and slow. A slow pumping action, drawing the blood into his penis will start to build a harder longer orgasm for your man! It does take a little practice to get coordinated, but once you have the pumping action down pat, don’t neglect the other erogenous zones.

While you are pumping with one hand you can stroke his inner thighs, run your finger tips over his hips and ass, tease his nipples, whatever turns him on, because this is all about pleasing him for now! It’s recommended that we give the pump a rest every five to fifteen minutes, so depending on how long you can wait to have some pleasure yourself, vary up the activities. You can leave the pump on and explore his body with your tongue or take it off and give his penis some more tongue action. As with any stimulation, it can take some adjusting and you may find your guy can only take the extra sensation for a short time without exploding at first, so let him build to his comfort and take it from there. This is definitely a fun toy for a change in pace of masturbation or hand jobs or for extreme stimulation while he explores your body with his other hand.

Masturbation Sleeves
The next set of toys is the masturbation sleeves. This toy is probably one of the easiest toys to use. Typically owned by single men, there’s no reason why it can’t provide fun for two. Again, this is another inviting option for a guy who likes hand jobs from you and himself. The sleeve is typically a long tube of warm fleshy material (like jelly or silicon) that has a large opening at one end for the penis and a smaller opening at the bottom end. The trick to these toys is finding one the right size. Although most appear quite small, they stretch to accommodate most size stretching up to about 3 extra inches. So although width isn’t usually a problem, length can be.

The smaller opening at the bottom end of the sleeve allows for the penis to slide out with full penetration. This sensation is sensation to some men, yet others prefer to remain within the warmth of the sleeve. It’s a personal choice your man may need to try to figure out through some trial play time. The fun thing with the masturbation sleeves is the variety of looks they come in. Some shaped like the voluptuous thighs of a woman from behind or in front, hard shelled cases with tantalizingly fleshy realms waiting within. You’ll have fun exploring in this category of toys.

Once you’ve chosen the perfect toy for you and your guy, it’s best to get started with some foreplay and teasing before using the sleeve. I am always a big fan of tickling and licking all over. Once he is hard, his penis can be inserted into the sleeve. It might be easier to get him to get it on at first. Don’t forget to lube up to avoid chaffing. Once his penis is inside the sleeve, it is like giving a hand job, slide the sleeve up and down his shaft, you can twist slightly as you pull up to increase the friction, try staying at the tip and sliding the sleeve quickly or slowly over the head of the penis. For another stimulating move, try sliding the sleeve very slowly down his penis giving him a good squeeze as you move. And, to mix things up a little, slide the sleeve quickly down him with just enough force to give his scrotum a stimulating slap. Once again, when you get used to the motion and the actions, get daring! Try new things, watch for his reactions, and don’t neglect his nipples, thighs, ass, and testicles.

Erection (Cock) Rings
Erection rings are another toy that is well known to most. They follow the basic idea of the penis pump; blood in the penis is good. This toy helps to keep most of the blood flowing to his organ in it. It is easiest to put on an already erect penis and can be worn at the base of his shaft or include his scrotum as well. In order to determine the size of the erection ring, measure around the scrotum and penis or just around the shaft. You shouldn’t get a ring that is any smaller than this diameter. If you are unsure of the size needed, then go for an adjustable ring or one that is made of a more flexible material such as jelly.

The cock rings listed here are some of the most popular ones for comfort, feel, and looks. Single strap rings are a single strap (usually leather) that fasten around the penis and scrotum and are adjustable and easy to remove. A perfect starter for the beginner!

The solid ring is the one more stereotypically seen in sexually motivated movies. Made of plastic or metal, and are applied before an erection is achieved. They can be a little trickier to get on as they have no flex to them, and they can only be removed once the erection is lost.

The testicle spreader does just what its name implies; it spreads the testicles through the attachment of straps around each testicle. The straps then click onto the ring. Another similar ring is the testicle stretcher which elongates the scrotum and can be attached to a leash or small weights for extra pleasure or a bit of role playing. Ball stretchers will actually cause your fellows testicles to hang lower if used over a prolonged period.

Finally, the last and favorite of many is the vibrating ring. This one is a great toy for him and her all around. It is the same as the single strap erection ring but made from a firm jelly, and comes with a vibrating bullet that can be placed the tip of the penis, on the clitoris or at the base of the scrotum for added pleasure. No matter what type of ring you choose, it is important to remove the ring every 20 – 30 minutes to allow the blood to circulate through the penis so that the erectile tissues receive enough oxygen to remain healthy. An erection ring shouldn’t be used if you have any type of groin or genital injury. If your guy is on blood thinners, has a clotting disorder, or is diabetic, he should talk to his doctor before playing with erection rings.

The best thing about erection rings is that they can be put on in many tantalizing ways before they even conjure pleasure through their presence. It is easiest to start with a simple ring. You can put it on with your hands or your mouth. This does take some practice, but usually as long as you give him some pleasure in between trying, he won’t mind all of the extra attention. Hold the ring in your mouth between your lips and your teeth then slide your mouth down over his penis and use your tongue to help roll the ring onto his penis. Unless you have abnormally good muscle control in your tongue, it may need to be adjusted at the base with your hands. Once on, enjoy his prolonged erection in any way you want! If you are feeing adventurous, try a ribbed, studded or vibrating ring for some extra stimulation yourself. Whatever you do, have fun, and enjoy.

The next category, ticklers, is as fun as it sounds. They can be thought of more as intercourse accessories. Ticklers are textured sleeves or tips that can fit either over the penis or over a vibrator. The texture of the tickler enhances the stimulation of both partners if worn during intercourse.

Ticklers come in many patterns and textures, two of the most popular being ribbed (which is a sleeve covered with many circular nodules) and the pineapple which has ridges along the body and fronds at the tip for a little extra excitement. These pleasure inducing items can be worn during intercourse (tickler sleeves) or may just cover the tip for “tickling” the opening of the vagina or the anal entry. However, be careful not to lose the tip type in any passage.

Ticklers are mostly used by men, but can also be used on them. Place the tickler on one or several of your fingers. Use it to massage his sensitive areas. Give his ass and anus a stroke. If he is interested, try a little bit of anal stimulation rubbing the tickler around his anus until he is relaxed and the press slightly on the anus, just enough that it is slightly indented and then vibrate the tickler or turn in a small twisting action. The tickler can also be used to stimulate the erogenous areas of his penis. Run the tickler along the underside of his shaft, around his testicles, and if he isn’t too sensitive, try giving the tip of his penis a tickle as well. There is really no limit to the ways in which a tickler can be used.

These toys are not only for men who wish to be longer, but also for women who love that sensation deep within. There are two types of extenders: the strap-on, and the strapless. The strap-on is a hollowed out rigid or semi rigid tube that fits over your man’s erect penis. As the name implies, a strap is required to help keep the penis extension in place. The strapless extensions however roll on much like a condom with a few extra fleshy inches at the head. This is another great toy that can be applied with your lips and tongue if the material is flexible and soft enough.

The downfall to these great toys is that they do affect penile sensitivity. (It is like the equivalent of wearing four or five condoms.) Although they do cover the penis and are quite thick, they are not considered an adequate measure of STD and birth control. For the strap-on type of extender a condom should be worn underneath for effective safe sex practices. With the strapless kind, a condom should be worn over the outside of the extender.

Extra care needs to be taken with jelly, rubber or silicon extenders as nicks in them could cause them to tear. Furthermore, oil or petroleum based lubricants (i.e. Vaseline) shouldn’t be used with rubber, latex or cyberskin type products. As well, silicon-based lubes can’t be used on silicon. If incompatible lubes are used on the extenders, deterioration may occur. A little bit of soap and water is all it takes to clean these toys up. These extravagant penis extensions can be fun for role-playing, or just trying a different penis for a day. They do increase both size and width and come in textured variations for your pleasure. If your man finds the decrease in sensitivity a mood killer, try out the vibrating version! Once again I remind you ladies, just because the penis is covered, there are plenty of other erogenous zones that need some attention! It may also be important to remind your guy (not during the heat of the moment of course) that this toy is just fun for role playing and that it has nothing to do with inadequacy of his tools or his ability to use them.

The Verdict
So, ladies, there is a treasure chest of spine tingling, toe curling toys out there for your guy. It’s up to you (or the two or you) to pick and choose your favorites. Don’t be afraid to try new things and surprise him with a special new treat. But remember, no matter what toy you choose, it is always a good idea to invest in lubricant. It spares your lover from the risk of painful blisters or rub spots and feels great with whatever toy you choose first. Because when he feels good, you’re going to feel good too!

Prostate Massage Techniques

For many couples, the prostate is a largely unexplored region of recreation, and yet it can be an area of pleasure for both partners. Whether this area becomes a staple of your sexual practices is to be determined, but some initial investigation is recommended before making a decisive conclusion.

The prostate gland is centrally located inside the pelvic region of the male; it sits below the bladder and immediately in front of the rectum, wrapping itself around the urethra in order to add to the flow during ejaculation. The area between the anus and the genital ‘zone’ is known as the perineum, which is in close contact with the prostate gland. So not only does this little organ lend itself to hedonistic pleasure, it also actually performs a reproductive function by producing a seminal fluid that allows sperm to survive in the vaginal cavity.

Reaching the gland can be a potentially invasive procedure, involving petroleum jelly, rubber gloves (if desired), and wholehearted arousal in order to stimulate relaxation of the sphincter muscle. The stigma associated with anal penetration may be negative, depending on a person’s particular background. Factors that affect an individual’s readiness to delve into this sphere can range from degrees of homophobia or a fear of appearing homosexual, to simple issues of discomfort. An important point to consider is the man’s willingness to engage in this affair; the more frightened, unsure, or unwilling the recipient is, and the more the incident is going to hurt, lowering the overall chance of success. Perhaps a drink or two might be required to relax inhibitions.

Though it is a voluntary muscle, the anal sphincter is designed to open upon internal pressure ... specifically, the force that is exerted from a full bowel. If gentle stress is placed on the periphery of the (well-lubricated) anus, it will perform the same action in reverse, almost sucking the finger into the rectal area. Once the finger or suitable substitute is inside the rectum about one or two inches, it must be pointed towards the ventral (stomach) region of the male and gently manipulated. In other words, if you are sitting between your partner’s legs and your finger is in his anus, curl it toward yourself to facilitate the stimulation of his prostate to orgasm. Some men may need less or more specific attention to the areas in and around the rectum; for some companions, provoking the perineal surface before and during sex can promote or intensify the climax, and can form an alternative method to penetration.

An inhibiting factor to be aware of is the rectal susceptibility to infections of all kinds, especially those caused from the insertion of unclean instruments or of lubricating agents that contain low quality ingredients. Due to the vulnerability of this and other internal organs to damage, care and consideration is always warranted. Washing of the area with soap before and after the activity is a good plan, as is the use of condoms for organ penetration. Don’t feel discouraged by the apparent elaborateness of preparation; anticipation is half of the enjoyment. Enjoy!

Anal Toys

Butt Plugs

A butt plug is a toy that is inserted in the rectum. Once inserted, you can leave it where it is or move it in and out. Many people enjoy the sense of fullness that butt plugs bring, much in the same way women enjoy the fullness experienced during vaginal sex. Others enjoy the sensation of inserting something in their anus.

Butt plugs come in many different shapes and sizes. Some of the sizes seem silly, but some people are obsessed with larger toys, so the companies willingly accommodate. The most popular plugs are less than an inch in diameter, and roughly 4 inches long.

Climax Beads

Beads are some of the most popular anal toys. They range from soft to firm-textured, usually consist of four to ten balls connected with a piece of nylon cord or plastic/rubber, and there are a wide selection in ball sizes. Whichever type you are interested in, they are virtually the best toys to ease into anal play.

Climax beads are a very simple toy to use. After being covered by lubricant, they are inserted into the anus bead by bead. Most people then leave the beads where they are until near the point of orgasm, at which time the beads are pulled out one by one. This can greatly intensify an orgasm to the point that it is too intense to handle. We suggest starting with smaller balls, and then moving up, as you get more experienced.

And like everything else involved with anal play, cleanliness is of the highest importance. Make sure to clean your toy thoroughly after using it, store it in a dry dust free place, and be very gentle when starting out.

Male Ejaculation 101

The formal definition of male ejaculation is “the release of semen from the penis”. During sexual stimulation, semen collects in the ejaculatory ducts located where the vas deferentia join seminal vesicles within the prostate gland. When stimulation reaches climax, a spinal reflex causes contractions to the muscles within the penis, urethra, and the prostate gland. These contractions propel the semen through the urethra and out of the tip of the penis. Although male ejaculation and orgasm occur simultaneously in most cases, they are not the same process. An orgasm, specifically, is the rhythmic muscular contractions that are a release of accumulated sexual tension and result in an intensely pleasurable sensation.

The rhythmic contractions occur initially at 0.8-second intervals, just as in women, and account for the spurting action of the semen during ejaculation. The intervals between contractions become longer and the intensity of the contractions tapers off after the first three or four contractions. Semen usually takes a few seconds to appear … ejaculatory inevitability (the point at which stopping is impossible) … because of the distance the fluid has to travel. During ejaculation, the sphincter of the urinary bladder is tightly sealed to keep urine from mixing with the semen, as well as making sure that the fluid travels forward, or out.

There are a surprising 20 million sperm/ml of seminal fluid, and average ejaculation consists of 1.5-5ml. Semen contains aboutonia, ascorbic acid, blood-group antigens, calcium, chlorine, cholesterol, choline, citric acid, creatine, deoxyribonucleic acid, fructose, glutathione, hyaluronidase, inositol, lactic acid, magnesium, nitrogen, phosphorus, potassium, purine, pyrimidine, pyruvic acid, sodium, sorbitol, spermidine, spermine, urea, uric acid, vitamin B12, and zinc -- but all in very modest quantities. Some of this is designed to nourish the semen enroute, while other ingredients are designed to neutralize the acidic environment of the vagina (which would normally be inhospitable to sperm). In case you are wondering, most of these ingredients are indeed very healthy, and an average ejaculation contains only about 15 calories.

Since orgasms and ejaculation are separate, it is possible to have either without the other.

In situations where ejaculation occurs on its own, there are two main causes. In the first, involuntary ejaculation occurs during sleep, and is known as nocturnal emission (formally) or a wet dream (in slang). The second main cause is known as premature ejaculation (click here for a more complete explanation), which is a sexual condition in which a man consistently feels he has little or no control over the timing of his build up to ejaculation.

Orgasm can occur without ejaculation. Retrograde ejaculation is a condition where the bladder's sphincter does not close off properly during ejaculation, so semen flows into the bladder. It is commonly found in men who have multiple sclerosis, diabetes, or after some types of prostate surgery. Before you get worried, it can also occur occasionally in men who do not have any serious problems. It is not physically harmful, but it can render the man infertile and he may have a different sensation during ejaculation. This condition is also known as a "dry come" because the man may experience orgasm, but no semen is released from the penis.

There is also a condition known as retarded ejaculation, ejaculatory incompetence, or delayed ejaculation. It is a sexual condition in which a man is unable to ejaculate even though he is highly sexually aroused.

Male Masturbation Techniques

Hand jobs are a great way to pleasure your man. They can be used by themselves, or while performing oral sex on your partner. Below is a listing of hand job techniques, mostly gathered from Although not necessary, it is better to perform these using a lubricant.


With one hand, pull the shaft's skin toward the base and wrap the fingers of this hand around the base to act as a cock ring. Using the other hand, rhythmically pick various points along the shaft of the penis and squeeze opposite sides of the penile shaft at these points, releasing pressure either immediately or after only a brief period of time.


Rub the penis between both palms, as if rubbing two sticks together to create fire. Be sure to use plenty of oil.

Glans Head Massage

Hold the penis in one hand with the head sticking up. Using the well-oiled palm of your other hand, slowly and sensitively massage the glans head. Reverse directions every once in a while.

Healing Stroke

With the penis resting on the man's stomach, take one hand and cup the testicles. Then glide the heel of the palm of the other hand up and down the underside of the penis.

Twist and Shout

Pull the skin of the penis toward the base with one hand. With the other hand, corkscrew the penis. This can be done with the thumb and first finger or with your entire grip.

Anvil Stroke

Start with one hand lightly grasping the top of the penis. Then stroke the penis from the top, all the way to the bottom. When you hit the bottom, release the penis. Meanwhile, bring your other hand to the top of the penis and repeat.


Place both of your hands side by side against his shaft like a pair of bookends. Now push hard against his penis. Then lift your hands up and down.


Turn the head of his penis like you're trying to open an oily doorknob. Now try turning the other way. Repeat. This stroke is sometimes improved by using the other hand to stretch the skin of the penis toward the base.

Double Whammy

Bring your well lubricated hands down on his shaft. Some penises are so big they require both hands; if your partner's doesn't, then use the other hand to caress and lightly flutter his testicles, or tighten around the base of his shaft. If both hands fit along the length of the shaft then move them together, up and down, in the typical pumping motion. Pretend you're holding a baseball bat and are about to score a grand slam. You can also vary the directions of your hands: one up, one down at the same time.


Start with one hand lightly grasping the bottom of the penis. Then stroke the penis from the bottom all the way to the top. When you hit the top, release the penis. Meanwhile, bring your other hand to the bottom of the penis and repeat.

Perpetual Penetration

Start with one hand lightly grasping the top of the penis. Then stroke the penis from the top all the way to the bottom, letting his penis "penetrate" into your fist on each stroke. Before the head of his penis pops out of your hand, bring the other hand up for the next penetration. This way it seems to him like he is penetrating deeper and deeper into an infinite vagina. Make sure you keep the penetration continuous.


Make a ring with your thumb and forefinger and pump up and down with it. When you get to the top close the ring. Then make him squeeze his way in as you slide back down to the bottom.


Stroke only his shaft, ignoring his glans head. You will notice his glans head swelling and turning red. When it's bright red, use Doorknob, Glans Head Massage, or Perpetual Penetration.

Shuttle Penis

Take the penis in both hands, fingers lightly touching the sides of the shaft. Now flick the penis back and forth between your two hands by holding onto the loose skin of the shaft. Do this stroke for a while to allow tension to build.

Spot Pinch

Lightly and slowly run a finger up the underside of his penis. Ask him to tell you where the most sensitive spot is. Pinch, squeeze, nibble and tease that spot.

The G Spot Techniques

If the woman is laying on her back, then her G Spot is located roughly 1.5" inside her vagina on the upper wall. The most ultimate orgasms come from a woman having her g-spot stimulated. The area inside the vagina typically has a different texture; ridged (not as smooth) as the rest of her genitilia. A G-Spot orgasm is often associated with female ejaculation and 15-30 mins of a euphoric sensation where the female is in complete bliss... Don't expect much from her during this time, she is in heaven.


With your fingers as far "in" as is comfortable for the woman, move your fingers in even circles all around the inside of the vagina. It generally feels best if you keep consistent, firm pressure along the entire length of the vaginal walls while rotating. You may wish to give a LITTLE extra pressure towards her belly (upwards) as long as you don't break the steady rotational rhythm. Stop rotating your fingers and rest your fingertips on the (usually slightly ridged) area of the vagina just behind the pubic bone and exert pressure towards her belly (upwards). This is direct G-spot stimulation, and it usually feels best if the fingers are subtly moving. You can move your fingers in small, slow circles, or point your fingers more sharply and rock them back and forth.


This topic will be covered in greater detail in the Intercourse section, but keep in mind the angle you position yourself or your toy during intercourse. Being able to stimulate the G-spot during intercourse will usually help you satisfy your partner better.

Cunnilingus Technique 101

Performing cunnilingus is about the most wonderful thing you can do for a woman. It makes her feel loved, admired, sexy, and it has the tendency to give her an exceptional orgasm. Many women prefer it to intercourse, and for most, it is the easiest way to orgasm. There is nothing more exciting to a woman than to know that her partner finds her delicious; and that is meant as you enjoy the taste, smell, and feeling of her vaginal juices. Besides, lots of women expect it these days and men who perform great cunnilingus are always appreciated and considered fabulous lovers. What if things don't smell so sweet? Don't suffer or complain, just take a nice hot shower or bath together. See the Bathing and Showering section for more details on how to make that bathroom experience a whole lot of fun for the both of you. Before reading further please read the section on the clitoris (Other Spots) so as you better understand exactly what you are dealing with and how it works. Also, it is an excellent idea to combine cunnilingus with fingering techniques. This generally will make a woman's orgasm more intense and will get her there more rapidly.


Remember, there is almost nothing you can do that won't feel terrific, so relax! Any licking and sucking of the labia, vaginal entrance, clitoris, or anal area is going to feel great to the woman. Also, you should never stop doing something that is obviously working (unless your purposefully teasing her, but don't take that to far either).

Here are some descriptions of how to get your tongue into certain shapes for performing cunnilingus:

The sharp, wide tongue:
To achieve this position, stick your tongue as far out of your mouth as possible, then try to touch your nose. Once you are in this position, hold the same muscle groups still and begin moving your tongue around. Practice five sets of three, moving the tongue first in circular motions, then up and down.

The sharp, round tongue:
To achieve this position, point your tongue while simultaneously trying to make the top of your tongue touch the roof of your mouth and the bottom of your tongue touch the bottom of your mouth. Once you are in this position, practice moving your tongue in and out of your mouth while keeping the tongue hard and round. For the more advanced student, try keeping your mouth closed and circling your tongue around inside of it, while of course, maintaining position.

Flat, soft, wide tongue:
To achieve this position, flatten your tongue in your mouth. Try to make your tongue rest gently on the bottom teeth. Once you have accomplished this, slowly, while holding the position, move your tongue outside the mouth. Practice curling the wide tip of the tongue upward, downward and side to side. This too, practice for five sets of three, while holding each move for 2 seconds.

Flat, hard, wide tongue:
To achieve this position, flatten your tongue in your mouth. Cover all your bottom teeth with your mouth. Using some force, try to explode your tongue in all the side positions. Using all the muscles in your tongue, try to move your tongue around.

Tonguing Techniques

The Lick
Leaving your tongue soft and jaw relaxed, try licking her from vaginal entrance up to her clit. This is a really good way to start out.

Labial Hold
Run your tongue between the inner and outer labia on one side, while holding the two parts together with your lips. Now do the other side.

Tongue Intercourse
In and out, around and around, etc. This feels nice. Not wonderful or incredible or earth-shaking; nice.

The Clitoris Flick
Spread her outer vaginal lips with your hand(s). Then, with your tongue pointed and stiff, gently flick here and there. Feel free to roam, but keep coming back to her clit. This drives some women wild, and others can't handle the feeling. Some women may prefer that you always leave your tongue soft, so when you try this, pay attention to whether those moans are ecstacy or pain.

The following techniques should not be introduced until your partner is really hot (i.e., very wet). These are very intense actions which may be too much to take for some women, even when nearing orgasm.

The Clitoris Suck
With her clitoris exposed, give it a quick little suck; pulling it into your mouth briefly and letting it go. This is a lot like licking a bit of cake batter off of your pinky. This feels incredible, and is a fine thing to do if you feel like torturing her.

The Clitoris Hold
Take her exposed clit into your mouth and gently suck on it, simultaneously flicking your tongue over and around it. This can be done very lightly or very aggressively, and combined with fingering, will usually rapidly produce an intense orgasm.

The Tongue Tube
Roll your tongue into a tube (if you cannot do this, forget about it because it is genetic and you can't learn it). This technique works best in an inverted or 69 position. Roll your tongue into a tube around her clitoris. Slide it back-and-forth; in effect, your tongue is doing something similar to a woman's vagina around a man's penis. This is likely to bring any woman over the edge and to an explosive orgasm.

Still Having Trouble?
Try using your tounge to spell the alphabet on her genitals. This works surprisingly well as your tounge is always moving in different directions. Learn her favourite letters and the orders that work the best!

Bathroom Shower Sex: The General Ideas

The General Ideas

Some general ideas to remember about bathing together. When cum mixes in hot water it general begins to congeal, rather quickly too. This turns the viscous ejaculant into a very sticky substance that if allowed to dry around hair is difficult to remove. Word to the wise is to try and avoid letting this happen. If you are going to make your man ejaculate while bathing, be sure to either have some tissue handy or to take the cum in your mouth and either swallow or spit into a tissue. Secondly, this applies to most women, not all, water tends to absorb vaginal secretions, making it difficult to keep lubricated in the bath. So, if you and your partner wish to practice vaginal intercourse in the bath, try to keep it above water. More over though, this is actually not that bad of a place to practice anal intercourse, due to the cleanliness and the fact soap can be used as a partial lubricant (for the anus only). Too much soap in the anus can become irritating, although the rectum will be spotlessly clean. Do not put soap in the vagina. It will cause major irritation and pain. If your a man and you want to know what it feels like, try to push a bit of soap down the opening of your penis. You won't ever want to do that again.

Bathing Her

Lather up her body and don't miss an inch of that gorgeous skin, from shoulders to toes. Avoid washing her face, she's not a child and most people find little enjoyment from it. Now that she is fully lathered in suds it's time to get down to the main course. Soap up her vulva, washing between her outer and inner vaginal lips. Spread her lips apart and gently wash her clitoris (Do not allow soap to go inside her vagina, can cause infection). Run your soapy hand down the crack of her buttocks and rub a finger all around her anus. If you are planning on some anal play, stick one finger in her anus and wash around inside too. To get her thinking in the right direction stimulate her vagina by rinsing your fingers off well and sticking one or two inside her, making a circular motion; like washing the inside of a tall glass. Do not try to push your fingers in and out of her vagina, water has a very nasty ability to make her vagina not so lubricated. Always remember this, water is not a lubricant and it does not.

Bathing Him

Lather up his body and pay extra attention to his genitals. Take his penis in your hand and lather it up and by basically masterbating him. Wash all around the head and down the shaft. If he has foreskin, pull the foreskin back gently and wash around penis head. Run your soapy hand down the crack of his butt and rub a finger all around his anus. If you are planning on some anal play, stick one finger in his anus and wash around inside.


Think of showering just like bathing except your standing up. The whole issue with water making her less lubricated virtually dissappears. The only thing you really have to remember about the shower is that both of you are in there and it is cold at the back of the shower. Try to be curteous to your partner and share the hot water with them. Other than that it is all about fun.

Waterproof Toys

There are a great number of toys that are waterproof and that can greatly improve your bath time.

Saturday, November 1, 2008

Sex Positions: list of some of our favorites

Getting bored of the same old thing? A creative way to perk up your sex life is to vary your positions. Here are a list of some of our favorites.

1) Missionary - Good Old faithful. The woman lies on her back with the man lying on top of her. This position invites kissing, touching and holding. It is limited though, if there is a great height difference between the partners. It is also not very good for female genital stimulation.

2) Doggy - Good Old faithful's best friend. The woman gets down on her hands and knees. The man kneels behind her and enters her vagina from behind. Not great for touching, but allows the man to stimulate the woman's genitals while penetrating.

3) The Scissors - Great for deep penetration. The woman lies on her side. The man kneels on top of her, lifts her uppermost leg and penetrates.

4) Upright - Good use for furniture. The woman lies on her back on a table that is at the man's groin level. The man picks her legs straight up and penetrates.

5) Cowgirl - Great for female control. The man lies on his back. The woman crouches over his penis and lowers herself on it.

Reverse Cowgirl
6) Reverse Cowgirl - Gives him a nice view of her ass. The same as the "Cowgirl" but the woman crouches facing the man's feet. Can be turned into a "round the world" where the girl turns around on the guy's penis. (We've only seen this in porn movies, but it certainly looks interesting)

The Spread Missionary
7) The Spread Missionary - A great stretch. The woman lies on her back with her knees bent outwards. The man lies on top of her. Good workout for the woman's thighs, too.

8) The Couch Potato - Hey, you can watch TV at the same time! Similar to the "Cowgirl", the woman sits on top of the man who is sitting on a couch, recliner or loveseat. She can get as acrobatic as she likes.

Men love to see the results of their hard sex work on your body!

Men love to see their cum on your face. In your mouth. On your tits. On your pubic hairs and on your back. They love to see the results of their hard work on your body. They love it beyond words. And, if we are honest, we love it too.

Do you have your eyes open or closed while you are sucking on his hard penis? The answer is he loves both.

Men love to see you close your eyes in bliss while you are sucking his cock. It makes him feel like a movie star, a king, a real winner. And if he feels like a winner he will be a winner. If that is his process. You can grow out of that one too. But not while he is still in his little cotton socks. It is a process of maturity. Walk before you run. Crawl before you walk. Run before you fly. Fly before you soar. Soar before you leave orbit. Learn to leave orbit before you jump the light speed. Everything in stages.

Men love to see you look adoringly up at them while you are sucking their cocks. And what about your posture? Their favorite one?

MEN LOVE TO SEE YOU KNEEL IN FRONT OF THE ALTAR OF HIS COCK AND SUCK HIM OFF WHILE he is standing up. For some reason they love that. It never fails. If you start there, he will usually have you up and bent over a table and start giving you the ramming of your life from behind, and then they turn you over, push your legs wide apart and finish off missionary style, face to face. They like to watch your face when they cum. Don't try and slow him down whatever you do. But if you are confident enough you can break off his heated pumping by going down on him again. He isn't going to object, but you will have to suck vigorously to give him the continued sensation that he is fucking your vagina. Maybe its the meekness of sucking him off that gets him off Its a mystery, but it works.

Men love to have their cocks sucked while they are still in their trousers. It’s a recurring fantasy. It probably stems from their schoolboy furtive wanking days when they used to have a crush on one of the female members of staff. They all have wanking fantasies of shagging her in the gym or in the stock room while still in their trousers and they don’t really grow up. They are the same when they are at work as grown men. We are still the teachers and they are now old enough t fulfill their fantasies. Same with the little girls we once were. How many of us had a favorite teacher man?

Maybe more than one. And we used to go home and really punish the button about being fucked by our favorite teacher, right there over the table after class on his table. If only w had the nerve. Of course there are all sorts of rules against it and he would get fired on the spot if you were ever caught. But the fantasy still rules us when we are big girls in the office. We shag the boss, or we shag the temps. There is this unwritten rule to fulfill our schoolgirl fantasies and that urge is a strong in him too. Remember that.

The surreptitious sexual act is three times more exciting than the one that is planned within the rules of romance and believe me when I tell you that it goes on. Some of my readers are well in on the act. But those of you who are wanting in on the act can start learning the game and these little booklets are designed to help you get some sexual excitement back in your lives. Those of you who are rocking already can only improve.

Men love those surreptitious sex acts and so I can't stress it enough. Forget being Miss prim and proper. You will end up an old spinster on the shelf if you don't get wise to it.